I know this sounds awful but I just feel like I can't cope anymore. Single parent to 10 y.o. (potentially mild asd/adhd but generally very chill)and 7 y.o. recently diagnosed with autism and I highly suspect pda. She screams, physically attacks me and her brother, shouts insults at us and generally wants to control everything we do.
I'm finding it so draining, it feels like I'm in an abusive relationship with her and I just can't seem to find a way to stop the meltdowns. There seems to be no stopping her once she gets going and our home is chaos and noise almost constantly. Occasionally I can stop it before it starts if I notice a meltdown brewing but other times it comes seemingly out of nowhere.
I feel like there maybe should be a consequence for her violence and rude behaviour, but at the same time I know it's only happening because she's overwhelmed.
I just want some peace for us all. I love my daughter dearly and when she's not having a hard time she's the most wonderful, funny and kind girl, but I really can't live like this anymore.
Please, if anyone has any advice at all on how to create calm in our lives, I'd love to hear any suggestions.
