Hello, my child is about to go into year 10 at school. This is when they do there options ready for GCSEs. She is so smart shes in all the higher groups and in these groups they get to sit extra exams in more subjects to get additional gcses which will help her in the job shes wanted to do forever. She will go on university trips. Have real world experiences (how to do a job interview ect) She loves to learn so she jumped at the chance to do more, she got all her options she wanted, she loves her class teachers. They all give her amazing parents evening and reports. The education is perfect. There's also a routine and its the same every week, she is allowed to go off into the library or gym ect to cool down if things get overwhelming in class/lunch ect.
Problem is there's a group of children making her life hell. They use what they know triggers her. Scream in her face, throw food at her, tell her to play and get her to chase them then run to the teacher and say she wont stop. They poke her when she walks past them, whisper under there breath.
Just this year she has been suspended 3 times, going to far with fights, the other children was suspended to. Between a day and a week each time. Some body throws something at her she punches them, catching each other playing but refusing to let go ect. Each time caught on cameras. and it is always involving the same students. She has 0 social skills. Says what's in her head which other people dont appreciate. Has ticks which they tease her about. Her attendance is below 50% because she refuses to go. She has a couple friends but in different years.
The newest thing is. , they message her on different apps, pretend to be her friend then take parts of converstions stick them together , share them with eachother and post them on social media, get parents involved who also post on social media then you have 3/4 adults threatening her. They've all now been blocked and deleted but kids talk on everything now a day's so its hard to keep up. I know 100% if I let her go back into school its going to be bad. They will mention it to her and shes going to start a fight.
She hates everything to do with physical touch but burst out crying and wouldnt stop hugging me last night saying she cant take it anymore. She doesn't want to go back. She doesn't want to be here anymore. I basically just said ok 1 week left your staying off.
She now wants to move schools and has been researching them all. She's found 2 that she likes one few streets away and one that is 2 buses but her face drops when she sees they dont offer the subjects she wants to do, shes also not guaranteed theres space on the subjects if they would do them. I'll move her schools in a heartbeat if i knew it would be better but I dont want her to miss out on something she loves, i wish i could get her to try to ignore them but it never works, no other schools in our area do what this school does. No extra learning. No specialised subjects, no teachers knowing her needs, learning 2 languages which is her favorite. Her grades are off the charts right now but I cant promise the next school is going to be better can I, i cant promise she wont have the same problems?
I've done every meeting you can think of, put her on every course/group offered, been gp, done anger management, I go through her phone and sent al the bad messages to my phone. Ive spoken to different staff, they either see no issue as they watch cctv and say shes just gone to far we can see shes playing and they threw things but shes gone to far or they say its been dealt with then she goes back to school and bam shes suspended because theyve mocked her, called her a snitch ect and shes hit them. Im so scared shes gonna get hurt or hurt someone else, be excluded, police involved.
Im just looking for some advise on what other people would do or say to her. Would you move her schools or is it better to stick with this school and figure a way to deal with everything. We dont think any of the children will be in her new classes next year but its not just in class now.
