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Hurtful comments - help please

Austin7

Can anyone suggest coping mechanism for me. My son is 19, diagnosed with aspbergers at 18.

he makes hurtful comments and when i tell him the comments have hurt me he says he doesnt care. He can get very angry and at times he scares me.

i am struggling with coping with his behaviour. I just cant get through to him. I feel unloved, isolated and alone. At times i just want to run away. 

Any advice on how i can cope with his behaviour would be gratefully received.

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    He probably really won't understand that you feel hurt. That's part of the condition, you won't really get through to him in the conventional way. You will be a mystery to him just as much as he is a mystery to you. The best way forward is for you really to imagine what it must be like to be unimaginably "different".

    It sounds to me as though you need to call on someone for help as you need to be able to share your problem rather than deal with it on your own. Do you have friends or family that might help you deal with this?

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    He probably really won't understand that you feel hurt. That's part of the condition, you won't really get through to him in the conventional way. You will be a mystery to him just as much as he is a mystery to you. The best way forward is for you really to imagine what it must be like to be unimaginably "different".

    It sounds to me as though you need to call on someone for help as you need to be able to share your problem rather than deal with it on your own. Do you have friends or family that might help you deal with this?

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