desperately needing help

Hey All,

Ill try and keep this short, LO is 9 going on 10, under consultation for ADHD and inline for an ADOS assessment, I have a gut feeling that he has PDA.

He is currently in year 5 and is starting to talk about going to high school, where he said he will have no friends, as he's going to a different high school than the rest. His behaviour has escalated, in the sense of harming himself, and not being nice to his school friends, his attitude sucks as well here at home. why don't you do it, when asked a simple task. 

His bedroom routine, is usually me singing a song 3 time, but this has escalated to 12, and then half an hour later can you sing it a further six times clearly hes worrying or something is up with him,, but can't identify what it is. I've told him on several occasions, that this is the last one, however he will come down crying saying he can't sleep, and he can't he won't sleep till 10pm, if not longer if it isn't sung.

I spoke to CHAMS and they suggested Thrive, been there and they said because of possible diagnosis, they can't help due to neurodivergent. 

How do People parent this, I feel completely lost and crap mummy!!!

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  • I don't know, but here are some random comments:

    Could you record your singing? Then he could be in control of it and listen as many times as he wants.

    Is it the singing or your physical presence he really wants hough?

    For the new school, is there a way to visit, so that it does not seem so scary. Take away some of the unknown. If there is a way to make it a positive experience it would help, maybe he would then look forward to it.

    Don't feel crap. You can only do what you can do. You are doing your best. Singing something 18 times a night is not crap.

  • Last night he came down, and was upset, so I did go up, and I went through a few things with him for instance recording and he did not like that. I think he like the company, and the hugs that go with it, which make him feel better. 

    He doesn't go to highschool to next year so in September we will start looking at this. 

    Thanks for your support I think I just needed to let it out and know I am not alone 

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  • Last night he came down, and was upset, so I did go up, and I went through a few things with him for instance recording and he did not like that. I think he like the company, and the hugs that go with it, which make him feel better. 

    He doesn't go to highschool to next year so in September we will start looking at this. 

    Thanks for your support I think I just needed to let it out and know I am not alone 

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