Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out for advice on helping my 8 year old autistic child, who keeps following a bully at school. Even though this other child is unkind, my child can’t seem to stop following them in classroom or lunchtime/after school clubs. They’ve known each other since nursery and used to get along but the other child has become the class bully in recent years. It feels like it’s just a habit/safe person in my child’s mind, but It’s like they don’t fully understand the behaviour from the other child isn’t friendly now, or they’re drawn to this person despite the negativity. I’m worried about the impact on their well-being and want to help them make safer choices.
Has anyone dealt with this? How did you teach your child to recognize unkind behavior and choose better friends or activities instead? I’m looking for practical tips, like using visual aids, social stories, or ways to redirect their focus. Also, has anyone worked with schools or therapists to address this kind of issue? We’re in the UK and hoping to explore NHS options like CAMHS or a behaviour therapist.
Any suggestions or experiences would mean a lot. Thanks so much for your support!