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Ok I have one very happy go friendly twin and one with possible ASD..so how do other parents in this situation manage playdates and friends round.

My poor kid is wittless and I'm not far off...how to I make sure one kid is happy and socialised and the other gets some quiet time in the day.

O keeps getting dragged into games..he goes willingly but soon has reached his thresh hold and ends up over wrought and in tears.

Tried a quiet morning and a play afternoon..but it's touch and go at the moment as I can sense his thermometer rising with his voice. If I bring him in he thinks he's done something wrong and is sad he can't play..but if I leave him out playing he is over excited and screaming by bedtime.

How do the rest of you cope with the different needs of your children.

Thanks

Oatie

xx

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  • I completely agree WB but how do I stop my boy from feeling he is being punished if I send his friends home..I do it nicely and have an alternative activity ready but he gets so upset that the play stops..even if he has just melted down over it.

    We got home from dancing this morning and I was having to hang on to his coat to stop him going round to the neighbours to get his friend..in the end after half an hour of 'can I go now' I relented and both boys have been gone for 11/2 hours now! 

    It's not like we don't share the burden with each other..the other kids only live 3 doors away and they all just flit between the 2 houses..so they'll be here or outside in the green or at the neighbours house, depending on how they are feeling.

    I am feeling twitchy now..I did offer to do a home movies session but they all wanted to go to their friends today..hmmm better check up on them in a moment.

    Yes JD O gets really cross at games..either he wants to change the game or gets annoyed if he can't do it 'perfectly'. Wrestling is the 'in thing' and it just winds them all up. I go and stop it frequently but I can't watch them constantly. Yes dog lovers here too and yes O is very gentle with the dogs and although not hugely interested he does understand to be kind to the dogs better than he seems to with humans or (NC's non canines).

    Ah well I will keep trying better check on the troops.

    Hugs to all..thanks WB for the tips as always.

    Oatie

    xxx

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  • I completely agree WB but how do I stop my boy from feeling he is being punished if I send his friends home..I do it nicely and have an alternative activity ready but he gets so upset that the play stops..even if he has just melted down over it.

    We got home from dancing this morning and I was having to hang on to his coat to stop him going round to the neighbours to get his friend..in the end after half an hour of 'can I go now' I relented and both boys have been gone for 11/2 hours now! 

    It's not like we don't share the burden with each other..the other kids only live 3 doors away and they all just flit between the 2 houses..so they'll be here or outside in the green or at the neighbours house, depending on how they are feeling.

    I am feeling twitchy now..I did offer to do a home movies session but they all wanted to go to their friends today..hmmm better check up on them in a moment.

    Yes JD O gets really cross at games..either he wants to change the game or gets annoyed if he can't do it 'perfectly'. Wrestling is the 'in thing' and it just winds them all up. I go and stop it frequently but I can't watch them constantly. Yes dog lovers here too and yes O is very gentle with the dogs and although not hugely interested he does understand to be kind to the dogs better than he seems to with humans or (NC's non canines).

    Ah well I will keep trying better check on the troops.

    Hugs to all..thanks WB for the tips as always.

    Oatie

    xxx

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