Hi All,
I am really just looking for advice and support on how to help my 3yr old son. We have just started the process of SCAAS referral with nursery help but I am struggling to find any useful support groups or anyone able to give me advice.
My little boy appears to be high functioning, he can talk in full sentences (since he was 2) and can count to 12, he is fully able to express his basic needs, feed himself and sleeps well. However, ever since he was a baby I had a sense that something was a little different, he appeared to cry for different reasons to other babies. His nursery worker agreed with me that she sees sensory sensitivity in him as well, so it was reassuring to know I wasnt just being a paranoid first time mum.
He doesnt like new or loud noises (has ear defenders), can be sensitive to certain clothing and also has a particular thing about water (sometimes loves it, other times has a meltdown because his fingers are wet). He seems to cope very well at pre-school but on days at home he can have huge meltdowns lasting 45mins plus, I try to minimise his triggers where I can or warn him of things but these meltdowns can sometimes appear to come from nowhere. There is a lot of screaming, crying and sometimes violence if anyone gets too close. I try all techniques like distraction or comfort but nothing seems to work apart from being present and waiting to weather the storm.
Does anyone have any help they can give on how to pick up on his triggers or to help during a meltdown? He doesnt seem to want ear defenders on at home but asks for them at preschool. We are currently trying to create a calm space den for him in his room for christmas.
I should probably add that my husband is also going through the diagnosis route now as an adult, as having had discussions about our son he to feels he is on the spectrum and he struggles immensely with the crying and screaming.
Thanks in advance for any help from an exhausted and emotional mum.
