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Meeting emotional.needs

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How can my husband and I meet the emotional needs of our 8 year old Son?.  I fear he is displaying behaviours such as throwing, aggressiveness and climbing where he shouldn't because we don't know how to meet his emotional needs

  • Hello  

    Thank you for sharing this with the community. I am sorry to hear that your son has been displaying some of these behaviours, but it is useful that you want to understand more about meeting his emotional needs. Individuals on the spectrum can often display behaviour that may be challenging. There will generally be a reason for this and it is important to try and understand the trigger for the behaviour when developing strategies. You may like to have a look at the following link for more information on behaviour and strategies: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour 

     You may be interested in seeking some professional support regarding the behaviour. You can search for professionals in your area we are aware of on the Autism Services Directory: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/directory 

      You might also like to take a look at The Challenging Behaviour Foundation website for further information and advice: 

     https://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk.  They also have an information and support service which you can contact by phone or email – details can be found here: https://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk/for-family-carers/family-support-service/ 

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod

  • I'm going to ask some awkward questions, so please don't be offended if I come across as being hostile, because I'm trying not to be and ask questions around the subject.

    8 year old boys are often loud noisy and very physical, is he in need of more physical exercise? I've found that when boys and some girls too are going through a phase like that then joining a martial arts club can be good, it teaches them how to be disciplined with their physicality and gives them an emotional outlet through the physical actions.

    Are you focussing to much on his emotional needs, could he be in need of more firm disciplinary boundaries? Of course he'll object and fight back but you need to stay strong with the boundaries. Boundaries are an invisble behavioural container that keeps everybody safe, just because he's ASC, I assume he is as you're posting here asking for advice, dosen't mean he dosen't need boundaries.

    At his developmental stage he's probaby unable to verbally express his needs and so acts them out, part of the safety of boundaries is you being able to ask open questions that don't require much more from him than yes or no answers at first, he may open up a bit more if he feels heard and taken seriously.