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Neighbour threating my nephew

HLGWilson

My nephew is 15, is autistic and has ADHD and lives in a small village. In the summer, he got new neighbours move in and more recently it's become very scary.
A bit of context, his bedroom looks over the front of the house, where he can see the gate to the front door, the road and pathway and the lounge window is the front of the house.  His grandparents live up a few doors up and his parents park on the main road.
Recently his neighbour has started complaining about my nephew looking out his bedroom window or lounge window when they open their own gate. This included the neighbour yelling at my nephew and sister-in-law calling my nephew horrendous names. The other night he went out to look at the stars with an app on his phone in his garden, and this resolved in a tirade of abuse and C-word being yelled at in. My sister-in-law was going to talk this through with the local police, however before she got a chance this escalated. The neighbour threatened my nephew and my sister-in-law had to get the police out. The police came and tried to resolve the situation, but with limited success. The neighbours are already known to them, I don't know why, and the police had told my nephew to dial 999 if it happens again.

So my question is, is there anything my sister-in-law and nephew can do, to feel safer in their own home?

  • in reply to HLGWilson

    I hope this works out for you. At the time I was going through this with neighbour I felt exactly the same - my sanctuary where I should be safe felt under siege and like I had nowhere to go.

    Things aren’t perfect now but they are much, much better. I sure you’ll get there too.

  • in reply to Iain

    They live next door, so no rush of looking in their windows. It’s such a worry that his sanctuary (home) is now also surrounded by this. He’s not having a great time.

     Thanks

  • in reply to A
    A said:
    I installed a doorbell camera,

    I believe you need to be careful to check the camera cannot see into the neighbours windows - this can break some laws so best to not give them any ammunition to use if things escallate.

    I would get it installed and make sure it has a decent time span before it overwrites itself so you have plenty of time to review and archive footage if needed. Make sure you understand how to do all this from day 1 ideally.

    With a few recorded instances under your belt then you can fairly easily get a restraining order on them which gives you plenty of scope to hit them hard if they try anything.

    Also as a precaution, your nephew needs to stay out the guys way as much as possible and his staring at their house (whether intentional or not) needs to be trained out of him.

    It shouldn't have to be this way but avoidance is the best solution for now. If your neighbour comes looking for trouble, be ready to get it on camera and hit them hard with it.

  • Sorry to read about your distressing situation. I had a bad experience with a neighbor who moved next door. He moved in and started to knock on my door, expecting me to deal with every little issue he had. I explained I was autistic but it made no difference. I kept a log and the police and housing association were helpful. I had to have extra locks installed on my doors to feel safe and a camera was installed which helped. Have you asked for a Community trigger where agencies have to act?   

  • in reply to Rach91

    They are close, but I don’t think they’d get involved as this particular guy is quite imposing.

  • in reply to A

    I’ll mention that to them. That might help.thank you

  • Hi is your sister in law or your nephew close to the other neighbours. I’m on the spectrum myself and I have inherited my parents house and I get on well with my neighbours. A while back I had a massive meltdown and my neighbours from across the road came to check on me to see if I was ok. Maybe your sister in law could ask the others to keep an eye on the situation and also ask them if they have been receiving abuse as well and to maybe write down everything that has been happening incase things have to go further. 

  • I have a similar problem with my neighbour and the police have been involved.

    I installed a doorbell camera, told my neighbour there is a complaint lodged with the police (true) and that if the come near my property again I will view it as trespass and take legal action.

    They’re having a similar dispute with their neighbour on the other side.

    I think knowing that their behaviour will be caught on camera has deterred them.