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Parental support group and advise

NAS96606

Good Evening

I was wondering if there were any support groups in Northamptonshire especially in the Corby, Kettering area.  I’m a grandmother of a 5 yr old non verbal Autistic lad who is showing aggressive and naughty behaviour that is damaging the house and breaking a family apart as they as are struggling to cope. He’s in a sen school and his behaviour is different there to when he’s at home. He has a  7yr old brother who’s also starting to have behaviour issues more from frustration than anything else.  I know the whole family could benefit from more support and someone to work with them to bring them back to the family until they were before the 5yr olds behaviour stated to change 

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  • I know it is difficult but what you may see as "aggressive and naughty behavior" is most likely meltdowns due to the stress of trying to fit in with a non-autistic and indeed autism-unfriendly world.  Often autistic children can appear to be having a tantrum but this is rarely the case as a tantrum is something a child has control over. Meltdowns are a loss of control. Same with shutdowns when an Autistic child will just go quiet. My main advice is "never confront". I know this my not be something you may be used to but try to divert attention. Also, give the child space. If you can let them go to somewhere quiet and, if possible dark where sensory stimulation can be at a minimum. This is especially important when they come home from school or other stressful situations. Also never ask about thier day.

    Hope tjis helps

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  • I know it is difficult but what you may see as "aggressive and naughty behavior" is most likely meltdowns due to the stress of trying to fit in with a non-autistic and indeed autism-unfriendly world.  Often autistic children can appear to be having a tantrum but this is rarely the case as a tantrum is something a child has control over. Meltdowns are a loss of control. Same with shutdowns when an Autistic child will just go quiet. My main advice is "never confront". I know this my not be something you may be used to but try to divert attention. Also, give the child space. If you can let them go to somewhere quiet and, if possible dark where sensory stimulation can be at a minimum. This is especially important when they come home from school or other stressful situations. Also never ask about thier day.

    Hope tjis helps

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