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Does anyone else have this experience, and how did you deal with it.

I tend to use email as my chosen means of communication between myself and school.  Most of the  time it works okay, and I will get a response.  However, there are times when tutors don't respond, despite repeated requests for feedback.

I am finding this perplexing, as some of these emails were initiated by the tutor.  

I am not rude in emails, so I'm finding this deafening silence incredibly rude.

If you have experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

 I did send an email recently saying I was still waiting for a response to an email sent 2 weeks earlier, and the tutor took offense saying that she had matter in hand and would get back to me.  Question is how was I to know that?

I am getting frustrated with this behaviour, it is incredibly rude, but not sure how to tackle it.

The tutors all stick together, so reporting up the chain of command tends to make matters worse.

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  • Be on the look out for stereotyping.... this is something a kid with autism might do, so rather than wait and see if it ever happens we'll pre-empt the possibility and complain it has happened. This arises in racial discrimination as well as disability.

    I recall several years ago being in a workshop on graduate employment and talking to one of the participants who was in human resources. She was adamant that she wouldn't allow anyone with autism to be employed where she worked.

    I pressed her on why this was her view, and after a while it emerged that, some years before, at a company she worked in, a member of staff thought to be autistic (she couldn't verify it, just it was her impression) had touched another member of staff inappropriately (something which goes on in lots of work environments to this day I suspect, in spite of political correctness, without so much fuss).

    But the fact a supposed autistic staff member had done something inappropriate, that was it for her - ALL people with autism were automatically to be excluded from jobs because THEY MIGHT do something inappropriate. She couldn't be dissuaded by reason.

    You need to make sure that this isn't down to myths and hypotheses - oh well you know what they say about people with autism, its bound to happen with this kid sooner or later, let's just say for the sake of argument, maybe it is as good as happened. So we'll say a girl has complained......

    Get a solicitor to write to the head (or Chairman of Governors) asking for clarification of the inferences made. That might sort out the myth from the reality.

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  • Be on the look out for stereotyping.... this is something a kid with autism might do, so rather than wait and see if it ever happens we'll pre-empt the possibility and complain it has happened. This arises in racial discrimination as well as disability.

    I recall several years ago being in a workshop on graduate employment and talking to one of the participants who was in human resources. She was adamant that she wouldn't allow anyone with autism to be employed where she worked.

    I pressed her on why this was her view, and after a while it emerged that, some years before, at a company she worked in, a member of staff thought to be autistic (she couldn't verify it, just it was her impression) had touched another member of staff inappropriately (something which goes on in lots of work environments to this day I suspect, in spite of political correctness, without so much fuss).

    But the fact a supposed autistic staff member had done something inappropriate, that was it for her - ALL people with autism were automatically to be excluded from jobs because THEY MIGHT do something inappropriate. She couldn't be dissuaded by reason.

    You need to make sure that this isn't down to myths and hypotheses - oh well you know what they say about people with autism, its bound to happen with this kid sooner or later, let's just say for the sake of argument, maybe it is as good as happened. So we'll say a girl has complained......

    Get a solicitor to write to the head (or Chairman of Governors) asking for clarification of the inferences made. That might sort out the myth from the reality.

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