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Help desperately needed for suicidal teen

NAS93448

Background:
MY 16 years old son  has always been anti-social - since nursery until today. He was top 3 at secondary school of 1500 in Year 7. He had no friends and all teachers couldn't say enough good things about him. In year 8, he befrended some bad boys from school and became 3d from the bottom - literally. Teachers hated him. He was expelled. Remotely schoold for a year, briefly schooled in a "special" schoold and stopped going there by mutual agreement. When 14 he formed drugs interest based on peer presure. When15, he had problems with police, gang culture (small town in West middland ), was arested etc. He was sent to his granny for a couple of months and now he is back. He stopped with the gansta, split up with his bad friend, stopped having problems with the police and acquired a nihilistic point of view. He tried to kill himself last week. We talked to CAMHS and Early prevention:

- we think he is autistic but he cannot be diagnosed because he is out of the system now - no referral is possible from school. 

- he is suicidal and we expect to try again any time soon - we are relifed he survived the week

- he is self medicating with weed as he is struggling with mental health - NHS says he is having drug issue (weed is not a drug for me) and cannot be diagnosed until he is off the weed. 

The ask:

What help is avaialbe as a private route - NHS cannot recommend as they are just being NHS. On the other hand, we cannot navigate in the sea of internet sites. 
We found we can find private diagnostic center near us. However I don't know if he will survive the diagnosis before someone can help him. 

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  • Dear NAS93448,

    I’m sorry your son is going through such a tough time, it’s good that you’ve let us know what’s happening. We hope you and your son are okay.   

       

    If your son is unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about this. Call your son’s GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support.  

       

    If it’s outside your GP hours call  111 to reach the NHS 111 service:  

    https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/  

      

    The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on jo@samaritans.org.  

      

    MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.   

     

    If you feel you need more urgent help, our website lists some options you could consider https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/urgent-help 

     

    If your son is very close to doing something to hurt himself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support him and make sure he gets ongoing support.  

      

    You can find more information here:  

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide 

     

    In addition these resources may be of interest to you, our website has a lot of useful information about diagnosis, including a guide for parents and carers, which explains how to get your child referred for an autism diagnosis.    

      

    You can also browse our website for lots of other advice and guidance on a wide range of information about autism, including what autism is, socialising and relationships, communication and education.  
       
    To find diagnostic services in your local area, you can try searching on our Autism Services Directory, which can be found here.  The Directory also includes listings for support and social groups for autistic people, their families and friends. 

    Kind Regards,

    Rosie Mod

  • in reply to Rosie Mod

    Thank you Rosie,
    We've just been with the GP. He also does not understand why CAMHS did take it further with him. They didn't provide an plan of action and we feel they all abondended him. 

    He does not believe talking with any will help him and is quite cynucal about it. 

    We need someone who specialises in this sort of conditions and who can work with my son in the mid term - not just a single consultation. I'm not sure how they can egage with him as he is in his hole and does not want to talk to anybody. 

    I thought here I can find some guidance on a private route - is there any private practice that can help? 

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  • in reply to Rosie Mod

    Thank you Rosie,
    We've just been with the GP. He also does not understand why CAMHS did take it further with him. They didn't provide an plan of action and we feel they all abondended him. 

    He does not believe talking with any will help him and is quite cynucal about it. 

    We need someone who specialises in this sort of conditions and who can work with my son in the mid term - not just a single consultation. I'm not sure how they can egage with him as he is in his hole and does not want to talk to anybody. 

    I thought here I can find some guidance on a private route - is there any private practice that can help? 

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