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kraken468

              Hi everyone

     You never think it will happen to you... "kraken468" is our son. He was diagnosticated with ASD eight weeks ago. Has a speech delay and his behaviour is becoming agressive when he kicks, hits or throws... Sometimes, we try to ignore it to defuse it or use distraction and divert it and it all comes ramdom... 

    A big THANK YOU to the people behind the screen on this site. If you are in same circumstances and if you are willing, you could share your story or experience. Its still early stages for us and we need an upgade on advice. What other options to deal with kraken's behavior? Carpe diem !!!

 

   Thank you

  • Hello kraken468

    I guess the answer to that depends on why he's so against doing these things. Difficulty with transitions and knowing what's coming next could be an issue for him, as could sensory difficulties. Hopefully once you start getting more support from Portage, you'll get more strategies to manage these difficulties.

    Here's a link to some NAS information about behaviour which might give you some ideas about the sorts of reasons which might be relevant to your son and some advice about what to do next:
    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/behaviour-guidelines.aspx
    Also included in that is a link to the Autism helpline (page 4 of the article) which might be useful if you wanted to discuss any of the strategies or issues further.

    If anyone has experience of the probllems described here, please do chip in and let us know what helped.

    Good luck.

    Sandra

     

  •    Hello longman and thank you for replying. Kraken is a three year old toddler. Both parents are from different EU countries so there are three nations in the household. Sometimes its difficult to ask the right questions.

        We noticed that kraken's behaviour is triggered when he has to do something he does not want to. Could be getting dress to go out, changing a nappy or stop a game we play.

       Is it okay to let him get away with it? Should we stop him?

       Kraken is seeing a speech therapist twice a week in nursery and by end of the month he'll start with Portage Services... We are getting there!!!

      carpe diem

  • Be careful with the random idea - it may be difficult for you to link cause and effect. Your son may be taking longer to process causes before reacting, going over and over something trying to make sense of it,  so there could be a time lag between cause and effect. Also the cause of outbursts may be cumulative, and the trigger is "the last straw" in a series of causes, and the trigger might be quite trivial or even easily overlooked.  Concepts like ignoring, defusing and diverting seem, from the way you express this, to be neurotypical ways of trying to make someone conform.  You probably need to stand back a bit and try to get a picture, in stages, of what's causing the distress. You don't indicate his age which would help some parents relate.