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scooby11

Is anyone in the same situation as myself and my husband?

I have two sons one aged 21 the other who has Aspergers is 20. My worry is what happens when my husband and I have died?

My sons live at home. In a 'normal' (whatever that is) situation most children have left the nest either through marriage or independence. When the parents die it's just a case of selling the house and splitting the proceeds. I can see my eldest either living with someone or married. But this would not happen with the youngest. So what happens? People, who don't have an autisic son, have suggested getting him sheltered housing now. He wouldn't understand why I've made him move when his brother is still at home. He cannot deal with people, his communication skills are non existant. Any suggestions? 

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  • Have been humnting around the NAS website as there really ought to be something in there about this. It is something often raised by parents as a concern.

    Community Care is under "Living with Autism" then "Benefits and Community Care" then "Community Care for Adults".

    This is where the Moderators could help (moderators please........) as they can tell us where in the website they have filed their guidance for this situation.

    But I know somewhere there is some legal guidance for the long term position after parents are deceased.

    The other way is to search the directory, bottom right on the Community page, for Parents Groups in your area, or the one nearest, who may well have information on this issue. It is really important that parents can access good advice on this.

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  • Have been humnting around the NAS website as there really ought to be something in there about this. It is something often raised by parents as a concern.

    Community Care is under "Living with Autism" then "Benefits and Community Care" then "Community Care for Adults".

    This is where the Moderators could help (moderators please........) as they can tell us where in the website they have filed their guidance for this situation.

    But I know somewhere there is some legal guidance for the long term position after parents are deceased.

    The other way is to search the directory, bottom right on the Community page, for Parents Groups in your area, or the one nearest, who may well have information on this issue. It is really important that parents can access good advice on this.

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