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Is anyone in the same situation as myself and my husband?

I have two sons one aged 21 the other who has Aspergers is 20. My worry is what happens when my husband and I have died?

My sons live at home. In a 'normal' (whatever that is) situation most children have left the nest either through marriage or independence. When the parents die it's just a case of selling the house and splitting the proceeds. I can see my eldest either living with someone or married. But this would not happen with the youngest. So what happens? People, who don't have an autisic son, have suggested getting him sheltered housing now. He wouldn't understand why I've made him move when his brother is still at home. He cannot deal with people, his communication skills are non existant. Any suggestions? 

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  • Hi again - as there's no hurry you can take it easy with this.  How do you think he'd react if/when his brother moves?  That may be a starting point for a chat.  We understand it's difficult, especially if he's settled with you in his family home.  However, he may have wondered about the future so it's finding the best way to talk about that.  Does he know anyone in supported living?

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  • Hi again - as there's no hurry you can take it easy with this.  How do you think he'd react if/when his brother moves?  That may be a starting point for a chat.  We understand it's difficult, especially if he's settled with you in his family home.  However, he may have wondered about the future so it's finding the best way to talk about that.  Does he know anyone in supported living?

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