What Can I Do?

Is anyone in the same situation as myself and my husband?

I have two sons one aged 21 the other who has Aspergers is 20. My worry is what happens when my husband and I have died?

My sons live at home. In a 'normal' (whatever that is) situation most children have left the nest either through marriage or independence. When the parents die it's just a case of selling the house and splitting the proceeds. I can see my eldest either living with someone or married. But this would not happen with the youngest. So what happens? People, who don't have an autisic son, have suggested getting him sheltered housing now. He wouldn't understand why I've made him move when his brother is still at home. He cannot deal with people, his communication skills are non existant. Any suggestions? 

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  • It sounds like you really have the t-shirt etc. It's finding the right way to talk to him about it. I don't want to sound like I want you out of the door whilst your brother can still live here. But I don't want to leave him totally confused, not knowing what to do when we aren't around.  I'm not thinking that I'm going to 'pop my clogs'  soon and my husband feels fit and well too. It's just really having something in place when we aren't around in 20 or 30 years time. Unless our numbers come up sooner.

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  • It sounds like you really have the t-shirt etc. It's finding the right way to talk to him about it. I don't want to sound like I want you out of the door whilst your brother can still live here. But I don't want to leave him totally confused, not knowing what to do when we aren't around.  I'm not thinking that I'm going to 'pop my clogs'  soon and my husband feels fit and well too. It's just really having something in place when we aren't around in 20 or 30 years time. Unless our numbers come up sooner.

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