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Threatened Detention

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Just wondered if anyone can help me deal with a teacher who is threatening my son with detention if he doesn't hand in homework.  A bit of background, my son will only do work that he deems relevant to obtaining his GCSE's, so mock papers and other types of general homework he sees as a waste of his time.  If it is relevant to his GCSE marks he will do the work.  He is very bright so I have no issues with him obtaining the relevant grade to go on and do A levels.  

The problem I have is convincing the teacher that all will turn out okay in the end.  He as I said is threatening detention.  My gut tells me that if he follows through with this threat my son will dig his heels in and either refuse to attend his lessons altogether or if he is forced to go he will refuse to work.  All in all not a win-win for anyone.

If anyone has any ideas on how best to tackle this issue, please get in touch.  

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  • Just another way of viewing this or perhaps discussing it with your son.

    I hate mindless worthless rituals or jobs and so does my son to a degree (who has aspergers). So I turn to strategy. Even if the homework is worthless the crux of the issue for the teacher is that there should be parity between all the students. So perhaps your son would accept that the homework was valuable in that it helps to back up the teacher in what he is trying to achieve in the classroom. Rememmber your son is likely to view the teacher as an "equal" and not a superiour. The thought of "helping" the teacher may actually spark a different responce.This of course does not allow for the "teenager effect" which I'm yet to experience with my sons.

    I still use this approach at work when faced with work that seems pointless. There's usually some worthwhile objective even if it is just to convince your boss not to waste your time like that again.

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  • Just another way of viewing this or perhaps discussing it with your son.

    I hate mindless worthless rituals or jobs and so does my son to a degree (who has aspergers). So I turn to strategy. Even if the homework is worthless the crux of the issue for the teacher is that there should be parity between all the students. So perhaps your son would accept that the homework was valuable in that it helps to back up the teacher in what he is trying to achieve in the classroom. Rememmber your son is likely to view the teacher as an "equal" and not a superiour. The thought of "helping" the teacher may actually spark a different responce.This of course does not allow for the "teenager effect" which I'm yet to experience with my sons.

    I still use this approach at work when faced with work that seems pointless. There's usually some worthwhile objective even if it is just to convince your boss not to waste your time like that again.

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