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Threatened Detention

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Just wondered if anyone can help me deal with a teacher who is threatening my son with detention if he doesn't hand in homework.  A bit of background, my son will only do work that he deems relevant to obtaining his GCSE's, so mock papers and other types of general homework he sees as a waste of his time.  If it is relevant to his GCSE marks he will do the work.  He is very bright so I have no issues with him obtaining the relevant grade to go on and do A levels.  

The problem I have is convincing the teacher that all will turn out okay in the end.  He as I said is threatening detention.  My gut tells me that if he follows through with this threat my son will dig his heels in and either refuse to attend his lessons altogether or if he is forced to go he will refuse to work.  All in all not a win-win for anyone.

If anyone has any ideas on how best to tackle this issue, please get in touch.  

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  • I'm no lawyer, but here is what I think.

    A parent or legal guardian has legal responsibility for a child, ensuring they receive an education (whether at school or otherwise) is the responsibility of the parents.  This is a fact.

    A teacher at my eldest's school recently told the class the school can legally keep a child behind after school for up to ten minutes.  I have not checked this fact.

    If a parent, who as above, has legal responsibility for the child, refuses to allow the school to detain their child, I imagine the school cannot legally do so.

    You might want to check into the facts, but even without having done so, if it were me I would just refuse to allow it and if they try it, call the police as they are holding your child against your wishes and the child's.

    It may be that many parents accept their child's detention because they don't find out the facts.  In some cases, perhaps the children are poorly behaved because of a bad family background and the parents don't care and are in fact happy about the free childcare.

    I have always felt, that if a school tried to detain either of my children I would go down this route (refusing the detention) because I do not agree with my children being detained.  If they have done wrong, I expect the school to tell me about it and I will dole out my own sanctions or punishments to fit the "crime".

    Regarding homework, if your child has a statement you can ask for an early review if one isn't due and specify that the homework is causing distress/anxiety and ask for adjustments according to what your son can manage.  As he's so bright you should have an even better case.  Even if he doesn't have a statement with a disability he is entitled in law to reasonable adjustments at school and from all public bodies.

    Tony Attwood has written about the problem of homework for ASC children and I believe, recommended they are not given it.  If you Google you may find what he wrote.

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  • I'm no lawyer, but here is what I think.

    A parent or legal guardian has legal responsibility for a child, ensuring they receive an education (whether at school or otherwise) is the responsibility of the parents.  This is a fact.

    A teacher at my eldest's school recently told the class the school can legally keep a child behind after school for up to ten minutes.  I have not checked this fact.

    If a parent, who as above, has legal responsibility for the child, refuses to allow the school to detain their child, I imagine the school cannot legally do so.

    You might want to check into the facts, but even without having done so, if it were me I would just refuse to allow it and if they try it, call the police as they are holding your child against your wishes and the child's.

    It may be that many parents accept their child's detention because they don't find out the facts.  In some cases, perhaps the children are poorly behaved because of a bad family background and the parents don't care and are in fact happy about the free childcare.

    I have always felt, that if a school tried to detain either of my children I would go down this route (refusing the detention) because I do not agree with my children being detained.  If they have done wrong, I expect the school to tell me about it and I will dole out my own sanctions or punishments to fit the "crime".

    Regarding homework, if your child has a statement you can ask for an early review if one isn't due and specify that the homework is causing distress/anxiety and ask for adjustments according to what your son can manage.  As he's so bright you should have an even better case.  Even if he doesn't have a statement with a disability he is entitled in law to reasonable adjustments at school and from all public bodies.

    Tony Attwood has written about the problem of homework for ASC children and I believe, recommended they are not given it.  If you Google you may find what he wrote.

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