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Should we take him

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My Son attended a birthday party mainly with other SEN children at a soft play he’d never been to about four weeks ago. He didn’t have a good time, he was struggling with the change of christmas and no school, he was coming down with a bug and a little boy who was also struggling with no school got very rough with him. He keeps saying he wants to go out to various places including the soft play,, Is it wise to take him or not? 

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  • When I was little I did not enjoy new experiences. I'm still apprehensive toward them. But this is only because I have learned it will take much longer than most to familiarise myself with the surroundings, collect my bearings, feel a sense of connectedness, know what to expect and how to respond. What do I bring? How do I prepare? The issue with a new experience is that it is so completely foreign. It isn't a little bit uncomfortable or 'novel' in a way that feels refreshing. It takes me time to find my grounding.

    However, I've found it's OK to schedule a first immersion in a thing and then a great deal of time to step back and reflect on it, which can be a good way to allow the imagination to help one recall, consider and familiarise with these grounding aspects - very much away from the new location itself. 

    Now I'm older, if I travel, I need at least 2 weeks to actually enjoy and feel 'at home' in a new place, and this will include one day hunting down a cafe or coffee shop which I will then frequent daily. My sense of belonging is found in the very stones, sounds and smell of the landscape/architecture. The social collective will morph, change, come and go.

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  • When I was little I did not enjoy new experiences. I'm still apprehensive toward them. But this is only because I have learned it will take much longer than most to familiarise myself with the surroundings, collect my bearings, feel a sense of connectedness, know what to expect and how to respond. What do I bring? How do I prepare? The issue with a new experience is that it is so completely foreign. It isn't a little bit uncomfortable or 'novel' in a way that feels refreshing. It takes me time to find my grounding.

    However, I've found it's OK to schedule a first immersion in a thing and then a great deal of time to step back and reflect on it, which can be a good way to allow the imagination to help one recall, consider and familiarise with these grounding aspects - very much away from the new location itself. 

    Now I'm older, if I travel, I need at least 2 weeks to actually enjoy and feel 'at home' in a new place, and this will include one day hunting down a cafe or coffee shop which I will then frequent daily. My sense of belonging is found in the very stones, sounds and smell of the landscape/architecture. The social collective will morph, change, come and go.

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