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Parent group singling out ASC children

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I just found out this morning that my friend's child, along with mine (both in Y2 at primary), have been described as weird, nasty, spiteful along with some other names and that they wont be invited to other kid's birthday parties. My child is not nasty at all. In fact he is an angel at school the teachers tell me. I'm not involved in the online parent group at all, but I just found out this morning. It seems the teachers are aware and their comment to my friend was 'it's wrong', but as to whether they're doing anything in class, I have no idea. Because it's heresay, I'm worried about charging in like a bull because I'm upset but at the same time, it didn't come to me initially because it's my friend who has been targeted.

I've been ruminating on it all day and I'm ready to blow my lid. If there is a discussion that already exists, I'd be grateful to be redirected. But knowing what I'm like, my instinctive response to handling problems never turns out well. I would really appreciate some guidance or help to know how I should be thinking about this because I feel these kids that are going home telling their parents which kid is weird or whatever, are setting a precedent of bullies that will follow my son throughout his educational years.

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  • I have no helpfull sugestions for you. It doesn't sound like a legal or administrative issue you could take to a court or goverment body. This is just people being ass holes. You could point out that science sugests their dislike of autistic children is probably unconscious bias https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8992906/ but no one likes being told that science has proved the average person is irational.

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    Thank you Peter. It does help to know this. I simmered down a bit by the evening playing out all the scenarios I've ended up in over the years that went badly. I am going to discuss with the teachers about some group work, to include the child of those parents, to facilitate positive interactions and address anything unacceptable, immediately. The other awful thing is the mother who's been saying these things is training up to be a social worker herself! I mean, how is this possible?!

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  • in reply to Peter

    Thank you Peter. It does help to know this. I simmered down a bit by the evening playing out all the scenarios I've ended up in over the years that went badly. I am going to discuss with the teachers about some group work, to include the child of those parents, to facilitate positive interactions and address anything unacceptable, immediately. The other awful thing is the mother who's been saying these things is training up to be a social worker herself! I mean, how is this possible?!

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