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Getting diagnosis for autistic teenage girls

Panda

Hello

I have two teenage daughters (age 16, and 13), both of whom I believe are autistic, and the youngest ADHD as well. I had suspicions about the eldest from when she was a young child as she had issues with eye contact, socialising, and some sensitivities. They weren’t severe and I didn’t investigate further – since then I guess she’s learned to mask well and she’s coping but has social anxiety. The youngest has always appeared uncooperative and disorganised and difficult to talk to, but her dad and I just wrote this off as bad behaviour. I’ve become more and more concerned and perplexed about her in recent years and finally we did some family therapy which didn’t really help her directly, but the counsellor told us she is probably autistic and ADD (ie no hyperactivity). Her father and I have spent a year considering whether we should tell the girls our thoughts, and we finally did, and both took it well (the youngest had already figured out the ADD from TicTok!). We offered both girls the option of pursuing diagnosis, and they would both like that. We’re aware of the terrible situation regards NHS testing for autism and we’re not prepared to wait that long since we have enough savings to go for a private testing.

Does anyone have any recommendations about private clinics for testing? We’re based in Oxford and there are two clinics here, but we’ve been recommended to use a place in Leamington Spa (Heathcare4Kids). Or has anyone had their kid/s tested and any suggestions for what to look for in a clinic, or whether it is better to pick somewhere nearby we can go to in person, or if online appointments are satisfactory.

Any advice, tips etc much appreciated.

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  • I was diagnosed as an adult woman by Autism Oxford in Abingdon, and I had a really good experience with them. Two of my appointments were online and one was in person. They diagnose all ages and they also assess for ADHD so you would be able to get everything done with them, although as they're a private facility it would be tricky to get ADHD medication as the NHS isn't keen to accept private diagnosis for prescriptions.

    I found that Autism Oxford were very positive about self-identification and saw it as self-awareness rather than attention-seeking or hypochondria, which is a HUGE plus given some of the attitudes around neurodivergence in girls. They also use diagnostic tools like the CAT-Q and have specialist knowledge of how autism manifests in girls and women, so they don't base their diagnoses on outdated stereotypes- they saw right through my 30 years of practice at hiding my autistic traits in about five minutes!

  • in reply to battybats

    Hello. Sorry for the slow reply - I'm having difficulty navigating this site! Thank you very much for responding. Autism Oxford is one of the places I'm considering, especially as they're close. Did you use them for any follow up support, or just diagnosis? And is there any particular reason you selected them?

  • in reply to Panda

    I chose them for a few reasons:

    • I'm also local to Oxford
    • They seem to know what they're doing with adult and female diagnosis
    • They have neurodivergent staff

    I didn't really use them for any follow-up support aside from a diagnosis feedback appointment, but there are services available from them like occupational therapy and people who can help with executive functioning. I found that the diagnostic report alone was a great help because they provided a reading list (both books and websites) and links to various organisations locally that can provide additional support.

    I did have a peer support volunteer though, who I chatted to via email during the diagnostic process and he also turned up to my final feedback appointment. He was really lovely and made me feel a lot less nervous about the whole process.

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  • in reply to Panda

    I chose them for a few reasons:

    • I'm also local to Oxford
    • They seem to know what they're doing with adult and female diagnosis
    • They have neurodivergent staff

    I didn't really use them for any follow-up support aside from a diagnosis feedback appointment, but there are services available from them like occupational therapy and people who can help with executive functioning. I found that the diagnostic report alone was a great help because they provided a reading list (both books and websites) and links to various organisations locally that can provide additional support.

    I did have a peer support volunteer though, who I chatted to via email during the diagnostic process and he also turned up to my final feedback appointment. He was really lovely and made me feel a lot less nervous about the whole process.

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