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my 18 yo son told his social worker he likes his own space

jaynatterjack

my 18 yo son was diagnosed with a.d.h.d, a.s.d and severe lerning disability he was allocated a nurse a social worker and upon meeting the social worker he took him into another room and my son was asked all sorts of questions about his likes and disslikes to which he replied that he would like to have his own space however this was taken literally and now the social worker keeps on about him moving into supported living however every time he asks my son says yes i suspect as he thinks that is what the social worker wants to hear but afterwards he becomes agitated sometimes for days repeating to myself and his mum that he does not want to leave home just needs space for himself

now the social worker has told him there is a place in a neighbouring town for him to look at (he did this on christmas eve) and now as a result we have had the WORST ever christmas due to his MOODS over this is there anything we can do about this mans apparent intent on pulling our son out of his loving and understanding and very tolerant family home

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  • Your son has the right to have you as his parents, present during all questioning.  If he says this, the SW cannot refuse it.

    Then, when the SW asks misleading questions (or leading ones!) you can enlarge upon the question to your son to ensure he understood the question correctly and is answering fully with the necessary detail.

    The SW needs to be explained that autism means misunderstandings can be common (and with a learning disability even more so) and that you know what your son means and that by "my own space" he means literally that, space, within the family home - that he did not say "my own home".

    Explain to the SW that it's very important that they understand correctly and that your son has been caused distress by the SW misunderstanding and what your son has been saying.  Record/video your son if necessary.

    Unless your son has been declared mentally incompetent to make his own decisions the SW cannot decide for him.  (And even then it would probably only become possible through some sort of court order, especially if you challenge it).

    I would call a meeting with the SW and record it, to address this issue asap.

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  • Your son has the right to have you as his parents, present during all questioning.  If he says this, the SW cannot refuse it.

    Then, when the SW asks misleading questions (or leading ones!) you can enlarge upon the question to your son to ensure he understood the question correctly and is answering fully with the necessary detail.

    The SW needs to be explained that autism means misunderstandings can be common (and with a learning disability even more so) and that you know what your son means and that by "my own space" he means literally that, space, within the family home - that he did not say "my own home".

    Explain to the SW that it's very important that they understand correctly and that your son has been caused distress by the SW misunderstanding and what your son has been saying.  Record/video your son if necessary.

    Unless your son has been declared mentally incompetent to make his own decisions the SW cannot decide for him.  (And even then it would probably only become possible through some sort of court order, especially if you challenge it).

    I would call a meeting with the SW and record it, to address this issue asap.

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