Autistic adult child wracking up huge mobile phone bills

Autistic people often prioritize and value things differently, but that doesn't mean there is something wrong, just that they are different.

He is earning his own money, and then spending that money on things/services he wants.... so I struggle to see the problem here.

Thanks, appreciate the different perspective. There have been monthly bills as high as £700, and numerous letters sent advising late or non payment of the bill. Personally I don't see that allowing this to continue is responsible or in any way helping him to learn the value of money. Yes he earns his own money but he wouldn't be in employment if it were not for me and his mum, but that's another story.

OK - that helps "frame" the problem that you seek help with.

I now read that your primary problem is one of WORRY about/for him;

a) what he spends money on.

b) that you can see that he is not always paying / paying on time (his phone bill).

c) that he may not understand the value of money.

d) that he is only able to earn his own money due to help from you and his mum.

Items a, b & c apply to me.....but I get by....and have done for many decades.  I'm just different ..... undoubtedly more proficient than most in many ways, yet hopelessly inadequate in many others.

Item d - naturally, I cannot pass comment on due to insufficient information.

And.......thank you for your thank you.  We do have visitors here who "bait" occasionally under the guise of asking for help - naturally - different perspectives abound in this place - be assured that any comment I pass is purely with a view to help or to simply proffer my own opinion (which is understandably different to the norm!) when invited to do so.

Thank you again for your comments. We've reflected and it's made us appreciate even more that he does has autism and can't help his impulsive actions and that the phone is incredibly important to him. However, as parents we have a responsibility to try and teach him the value of money as we cannot continue as we are. Our next step is to frame it such that we have his best interests at heart and putting the phone in his mum's name is us trying to protect him wasting his money and spending what is, up to now, thousands of pounds on 'rubbish'. Will see how we go. Anyway, thank you again, and I sincerely wish you the best. 

Thank you again for your comments. We've reflected and it's made us appreciate even more that he does has autism and can't help his impulsive actions and that the phone is incredibly important to him. However, as parents we have a responsibility to try and teach him the value of money as we cannot continue as we are. Our next step is to frame it such that we have his best interests at heart and putting the phone in his mum's name is us trying to protect him wasting his money and spending what is, up to now, thousands of pounds on 'rubbish'. Will see how we go. Anyway, thank you again, and I sincerely wish you the best.