being ready to accept that i have autism

Autonomistic said:

Weird is another way of saying different but it is not necessarily wrong.

Absolutely!

NAS84690 said:

what i see normal and what others see werid cause all i do is make mistakes after mistakes and making dumb choices

Are you sure that they are mistakes or is that just what you are being led to believe by others?

Part of embracing your autistic identity is accepting that it is ok to be different. What other people might see as a dumb choice might be perfectly normal and completely acceptable to you. Weird is another way of saying different but it is not necessarily wrong.

NAS84690 said:

so i was wondering can i get any advice and tips 

Like others have stated, it's perfectly ok to feel lots of different emotions when discovering you are autistic. After all, it is a life changing discovery!

Below I have posted a link to the six common reactions to autistic discovery which you may find relatable:

Video version:

 https://youtu.be/oo34mppLMqE

Article version:

https://aucademy.co.uk/2022/01/20/six-common-reactions-during-autistic-discovery/

I hope this helps!

Hi

im undiagnosed but as the others say you need to be kind to yourself. I accept who I am now but had quite a few months almost grieving for myself, it was awful but necessary. I now understand myself and don’t make excuses to people for being forgetful and over emotional. I’m not saying I’m in a great place but I’m trying to work through it and hopefully will be accepted for my ways. 
look after yourself 

I think you've already taken the most important step; accepting your autism.  As you explore, you will find you begin to understand why your world is different from those around you and start to experiment with different ways to negotiate that in a way that works better for you.

I hope you meet with open minded folk around you who want to likewise learn and understand.  That can make all the difference.

Meanwhile, I'll echo Bones.  Be gentle with yourself...and we are here.  Pump out your questions on whatever topics you like and we will answer.  We are all different, but you can bet a fair few of us will have been experiencing whatever you have been and will have a perspective that might help.  At the very least you'll know you are far from alone.

One of the most important things I would say is be kind to yourself. This is a lot to take in and you are different but that's a good thing, it's what makes you who you are. Another important thing here is to give yourself time. It's only been a year but it can take a long time to process being diagnosed and it can be a mix of emotions during this time. It's good that you're feeling ready to accept your autism and I have no doubt you will but you need to know that it won't be an overnight thing.

I would also suggest you to stay here or check out other autism communities. That's what I did and it was a real eye opener for me as I saw a lot of people had same experiences as me and I also picked up a lot of advice for different things. Though it doesn't seem like it there are actually so many of us in the same boat. I only joined this community yesterday but I'm already finding it a supportive and friendly environment to be.

Take care and be kind to yourself.