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Parent to newly diagnosed 3 year old

Mrs M

Hi all, my daughter has recently been diagnosed with Autism and we are at a bit of a loss of where we go from here. I am looking for some parents in a similar situation, maybe someone with some advice or experience to help me work through situations in her best interest. I am unsure how to discipline her, what I should realistically expect from her, where do I go from here to gain more information to help her through life and help her understand her diagnosis when the time is right. Any help would be greatly appreciated, I am so nervous of getting things wrong for her. 

  • Hello,

    I’m afraid I don’t have any particular advice to offer, just wanted to let you know that we are in a similar situation with our 4 year-old who was also formally diagnosed when he was 3, so you are not alone!

    His behaviour is presenting us with lots of challenges; we also get punched and scratched a fair bit. Things evolve every week but the current difficulty is his reluctance to let us get him dressed. Just about manageable at weekends (even though it prevents us going anywhere) but hard on school days. 

    He is at pre-school and has 1:1 support in place now. The school have been helpful and accommodating so far. 


    We’re taking it a day at a time. Never quite sure if something is a phase or a more permanent behaviour that we need to find ways to adapt to, and it all feels like a journey. Not at all easy though so solidarity!

  • in reply to Chloe Mod

    Thank you. We are currently finding that when she displays unwanted/ not safe/ not allowed behaviour and we tell her no we are getting punched in the face. This was not ideal but okay but now she has started doing it to children we are keen to put a stop to it/ give her other coping mechanism. Thank you for the links.

  • Hello ,

    Welcome to the community! You may find the following page on our website useful: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/post-diagnosis-support 

    Individuals on the spectrum can often display behaviour that may be challenging. There will generally be a reason for this and it is important to try and understand the trigger for the behaviour when developing strategies. You may like to have a look at the following link for more information on behaviour and strategies: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour 

     I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod