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Bullying situations at my school

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I have experienced bullying at my school and this is known by several people within the school.

A couple of months ago, someone told me about his problems. I managed to convince him to report the issues and I also passed on the information. However, members of staff told the two of us we must not discuss the issues again.

Not only this, he stuck up for himself and the staff said, as he did this, it is not bullying and so only he was disciplined. Also, they do not believe him and so now he tells no one.

However, various year groups have seen it, so it must be true, and have reported it to teachers, but nothing came of these raised concerns either.

Some people believe that we were told not to discuss these issues so that it can be ignored.

I raised my concerns with several members of staff. They would not take back anything that was said and those that considered action were talked down by the other members of staff.

Do you know if the staff had the right to say he cannot discuss these issues with me? And do you have any advice of any action that I could take?

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  • I can confirm from my own experience, when I tried to retaliate I got into trouble, but my persecutors did not. Part of the problem for me was being very tall, so the comment from teachers if I tried to aassert back was "pick on someone your own size".

    Also, because I was awkward and clumsy and having difficulties coping, I was more likely to make a fool of myself trying, and just add to the entertainment value. 

    The trouble is many people's advice, based on conventional bullying, is to retaliate and the bully will go away. But often the odds are you will get into more touble for doing so, especially if the school has run out of meaningful sanctions against the bully.

    Teachers often turn a blind eye to bullying, often with silly comments like "it is character building". It certainly isn't when it is collective exclusion against someone who is different or doesn't fit in.  But it is hard to stop the bullying and easy just to persecute the victim further. And some schools are just plain lazy.

    As to not allowing the younger individual to talk to someone about it, that is truly disgraceful. There is enough guidance around nowadays about the need to curb bullying, and one of the guidelines is about providing buddies or mentors to support vulnerable kids. If the school isn't attending to this it is failing in its duties.

    Sounds to me like a public school or would be snob school that thinks in this day and age that its victoriasn attitudes are anything other than outmoded, ignorant and negligent.

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  • I can confirm from my own experience, when I tried to retaliate I got into trouble, but my persecutors did not. Part of the problem for me was being very tall, so the comment from teachers if I tried to aassert back was "pick on someone your own size".

    Also, because I was awkward and clumsy and having difficulties coping, I was more likely to make a fool of myself trying, and just add to the entertainment value. 

    The trouble is many people's advice, based on conventional bullying, is to retaliate and the bully will go away. But often the odds are you will get into more touble for doing so, especially if the school has run out of meaningful sanctions against the bully.

    Teachers often turn a blind eye to bullying, often with silly comments like "it is character building". It certainly isn't when it is collective exclusion against someone who is different or doesn't fit in.  But it is hard to stop the bullying and easy just to persecute the victim further. And some schools are just plain lazy.

    As to not allowing the younger individual to talk to someone about it, that is truly disgraceful. There is enough guidance around nowadays about the need to curb bullying, and one of the guidelines is about providing buddies or mentors to support vulnerable kids. If the school isn't attending to this it is failing in its duties.

    Sounds to me like a public school or would be snob school that thinks in this day and age that its victoriasn attitudes are anything other than outmoded, ignorant and negligent.

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