Child dose not want to see me

My partner has a 5 year old who dose not want to spend any time alone with us any more, we have had a great relationship with him and he was sleeping over then one day he just stopped wanting to see us and crud when we first go to see him , he warms up to us and then has fun but never want to leave his mum, we have tried so many things and have no idea why.

it has happened befor when there was a lot of change on his mums side but he was happy to c come again in a few weeks this time it has gone on for months , looking for any advice

  • Firstly don't take it personally.  My son is ASD but doesn't always want to see me.  Though he is much older .  It can hurt but then I need to remind myself that his thinking is very different to my own. 

    Your partner can apply to the family court for regular access to be put in place if there are issues with the mother not allowing access.  Speak to CAFCASS to see if they can advise n the process and if they have any info regarding acces to a child with ASD needs. 

    I would maybe start with regular telephone calls and build up gradually again so it's not such a shock and less distressing for the child.  Let him know how you enjoyed his company and keep it short and sweet.    

    Be patient and understanding and it will happen in time.