i wont go in to it all, its too long, but heres the jist of it.....
son age 9 'max' . was at mainstream, unsettled for months. got worse. school in special measures. every 2 days max is excuded for 2.5 days. the day hes back hes home again in a few hrs on exclusion again.
all down legal route now, documented exclusions etc. every time hes excluded im called to collect him, i dont drive. my dad was driving me. dads got to ill over it. cant take me anymore. i dont drive. max gets transport to school through the council due to him running infront of busses etc. dad can no longer take me for max. we will have to walk. i cant do this. he doesnt see danger..school 2 miles away on foot. when they ring me i have to calm him when im there, usually takes a few minutes, as you will all know. the last time i had to restrain him, i dont know how, never had to do it . well not since he was about 3. i couldnt move for a week from the pain in my body from the restraining.
i now refude to send him back on the grounds that i cant collect him, my dad cant. hos transport cant as he wont go with them anyway as you know on a melt down, only with mum etc. mum to calm him. they school told me if i refuse to collect him again they will call the police to go for him and bring him home during his asd meltdown. this was the last straw for me. he would be terrified.
so now im applying to all spoecial schools i can, emailed them and explained. the lady at kids has being great, but she doesnt know where i stand on this either.
basicly i have letters off school saying they cant meet his needs.....they wont set up another annual review as i was too ill for the last one adn they think its an excuse. that could be another month away. the education welfare is telling me i have to send him, even tho im saying i cant pick him up during melt down. they have no answer for me, noone does?
so now its me, my boy, our house and lots of boredum for him.
weve had education psychologists round, school senco, etc all to try and 'get him back in' now they want 3 day time table. i dont agree as i will still have to go for him when hes on a meltdown and feel the force of it. yes im his mum and i will do anything forhim, but when i dont have to restrain in my own home, i shouldnt have to in school, then not be able to move for a week, and need to baby looked after for a week whilst i recover. so twice a week im called to ' restrain' so ine refused point blank. they say im not cooperating or being positive, how can i?
please what do i do, can i keep him here until hes somewhere else? he cant cope in mainstream. ive called him in sick, as he is actually awaiting a appointment with mental health. if hes called in sick it doesnt go down as me just 'keeping him off' as they call it. or i get a £60 fine for each month he isnt there, as the ed welfare said school is going to ty to prossecute me. im so stressed, i dont know where i stand legally?
thankyou, this was meant to be short, but i have so much going on.
thankyou for your time everyone xxx
