My 15 year old son is stuck in a repeating pattern of getting upset about things that have happened in the past, complaining to me, wanting me to do something to fix things, then telling me they can't ever be fixed. Mostly this revolves around things his dad has said and done over the years (most of which is just typical parental discipline or reacting to severe provocation).
We are now at the point of my son not wanting a relationship with his dad, and 'existing in this house' until he's old enough to leave.
Today we found that he has written lots of disturbing things on his bedroom wall - some about his dad, some about how he feels. I asked if he wanted to talk about any of it, but he didn't. I said that it would have to come off, to which he said that it's his room, so he can do what he wants. He also accused me of only caring that he had written on the wall, not why he had done it.
His best friend has similar issues to his and I feel they may feed each other's narrative around family relationships. His friend's dad is apparently horrible to his wife and child and there may be a split pending. I feel like my son might be seeing our family through the wrong lens. I hope that makes sense.
Any advice or words of wisdom welcome!