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Please help with my 3 year old.

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I’m a mum to a 3 year old suspected autistic son. He is very able to communicate and a very clever little boy. He’s always been such a delight and we have a lovely bond, or so I thought. 

at the beginning of September he started a new nursery, once he likes and as settled in. However he’s now having up to 5 accidents a day. It’s not the nursery he’s just started to regress, he’s been dry such a long time, along with this he’s gotten really sensitive and ask almost like a baby, wailing and whinging or talking like a baby, but the most heartbreaking is when he sees I’m coming to pick him up he screams and says he doesn’t want me. I feel like I’ve done something and I’ve asked him so many times if I’ve upset him and he doesn’t really know how to respond. 

what is causing this and how can I help? Because right now I feel like the biggest failure. 

for note* my son doesn’t have transition issues, sleep issues, food issues, or rigid with routines, it’s alsmot like it’s the need for attention. He’s a massive cuddler anyway and he gets attention from the nursery staff when he cries. 

please someone tell me this gets easier Pensive 

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  • My gut instinct is that your child is overwhelmed by all the things he now has to do in the day. whilst he may be good at communicating he may not be good at communicating how he really feels, for one thing he's very young and for another it can be very difficult for autistics to explain how we feel because we don't know ourselves. My sister's youngest went through the same thing when he started nursery, the baby talking, the need for cuddles... He was much better after the first term but it did take him a really long time to properly settle. He is now 5 and is more able to demonstrate his actual need for routine and his overwhelm, which weren't as clear when he was younger. 

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  • My gut instinct is that your child is overwhelmed by all the things he now has to do in the day. whilst he may be good at communicating he may not be good at communicating how he really feels, for one thing he's very young and for another it can be very difficult for autistics to explain how we feel because we don't know ourselves. My sister's youngest went through the same thing when he started nursery, the baby talking, the need for cuddles... He was much better after the first term but it did take him a really long time to properly settle. He is now 5 and is more able to demonstrate his actual need for routine and his overwhelm, which weren't as clear when he was younger. 

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