Hi everyone I’m new here! I am currently in my third year of nursing. I have worked with children with autism in residential settings and have a lot of experience in this field - from a social worker perspective.
I have a 3 and a half year old son… he has currently been seen by community pediatricians, speech and language, SOGS and his health visitor - all of which agree his development and mind is that of an 18 month old including cognitive skills.
he has a huge obsession with buses, VERY repetitive behaviour physically and verbally, he does not like foods which have sauce - so his diet is difficult - pasta, chicken nuggets - anything dry which he will eat.. it’s so difficult to get him to eat anything different. He stims, gets very distressed if routines are broken, lines up toys, is a lone player, doesn’t like the feel of things on his hands, covers his ears and rocks when distressed and much more - I could go on!.
anyway, in order to get his diagnosis - they have said they need a referral from an educational setting I told them I didn’t feel he was ready for nursery and low and behold I was right. He started over a month ago and every morning is meltdowns trying to get him out the door, we have tears, crying, screaming, repeated body language and verbalising things repeatedly… my concern is it is also affecting him on his days off and at night he’s become even more anxious as soon as we go to take my daughter to school he will have a meltdown and say “no school, not today, no tommy” etc aswell as waking with night terrors and all sorts (waking in the night has been on going for a long time however it’s become worse since nursery started).
my question is - how long does it take to get a diagnosis and is there anything I can do to help him see school (nursery) as a safe place and ok?. Or do I pull him out and maybe take the private treatments route?. Despite working with children with autism and my nursing training - I feel very novice when it comes to my own child because all I want is what is best for him emotionally, for his development and educationally. He struggles socially and to make friends… I just want him to be happy and relaxed more so like before he went to nursery. Any advice would be amazing.
