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Throwing drinks and food

NAS75657

My seven year old will throw food and drinks on the floor. Usually to get attention if he feels ignored or when he feels upset. How can I help him to stop?   

  • It sounds like he's having difficulty communicating. 

    My grandmother gave me some amazing advice before I had my son and I'll share this. If your child desires to connect with you, don't hesitate. Stop everything you're doing and attend to their Emotional Needs immediately. If they have a meltdown in a shop, leave the trolly, take them out side and attend to their needs. 

    Now, she was talking about feeding matters of the soul, so that a child can grow up with a healthy "Attachment". What happens over time is regardless of economic means or capitalist standing, children don't need much in terms of material things. They need to feel understood, a grounding source of connexion to the only individuals on the planet who are responsible for them. By attending to their deep anxiety of emotional or psychological separation immediately, you teach them they are the Most Important and they slowly stop demanding this because you will have been intentional with teaching them they can trust you. 

    Children aren't asking for attention, that's what advertising does. Children need connexion at a very fundamental human level. We live in a time where too many things are demanding our attention - especially the mobile phone. It can be helpful to have one digital free day per week to just spend time engaging with them. And as you do, they will actually grow bored of you much more efficiently. This is the goal, that they feel like they've had more than enough of mum and dad and will fly away from the nest with a healthy idea of how to attach to their future partner :) 

  • in reply to I Sperg

    I could get him to help me, thanks