Local authority obligations to provide supported housing

Hello,

Our son  will be 18 next spring and I'm trying to find out if the local authority has any legal obligation to find him supported housing if he is no longer living with us. Any opinions on this would be appreciated. Our son is 'high functioning' but has mental health issues and high levels of anxiety.

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  • I'll be honest probably not, supported housing usually isn't given to "high functioning" autistic people because it is wrongly presumed we don't need regular help.
    The most I got when I moved into a flat was someone came around and helped me work out a budget, that was it, then I got left to it and my anxiety and depression of feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility turned me towards alcohol abuse and a sui***e attempt.
    Here is (in my opinion, with hindsight) based on my own experiences how it should have happened to avoid the absolute mess that robbed me of 5 years of my life: First of all I shouldn't have been kicked out to then have 0 contact with anyone for advice and someone should have popped their head in every other week until I got established so I could talk about my anxieties rather than have them fester into a shame cycle spiraling down the hole to self oblivion.
    You need to stay in contact, not just on the phone but physically visit, have means in place that if he's having a no functioning day someone can come round with a tin of sandwiches and put a load of laundry in the machine for him. Don't shame or scold the negative (that just adds to the anxiety and depression) but encourage and kudos any positive steps he takes towards his own self care and regulation, you really have to reinforce the healthy connections in the brain to get good habits to stick. Watch out or any dangerous signs of downward spiral that he may be hiding from you, the time to intervene to stop a fall is as near to teh top as possible, don't wait for him to get to rock bottom. He won't hit the ground running right away, it may even take many months but if you can hold him steady long enough for him to get into gear himself he will be okay when he gets into the rhythym of doing the running of the place for himself. Because the more stable he is mentally the less help he will need overall anyway.

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  • I'll be honest probably not, supported housing usually isn't given to "high functioning" autistic people because it is wrongly presumed we don't need regular help.
    The most I got when I moved into a flat was someone came around and helped me work out a budget, that was it, then I got left to it and my anxiety and depression of feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility turned me towards alcohol abuse and a sui***e attempt.
    Here is (in my opinion, with hindsight) based on my own experiences how it should have happened to avoid the absolute mess that robbed me of 5 years of my life: First of all I shouldn't have been kicked out to then have 0 contact with anyone for advice and someone should have popped their head in every other week until I got established so I could talk about my anxieties rather than have them fester into a shame cycle spiraling down the hole to self oblivion.
    You need to stay in contact, not just on the phone but physically visit, have means in place that if he's having a no functioning day someone can come round with a tin of sandwiches and put a load of laundry in the machine for him. Don't shame or scold the negative (that just adds to the anxiety and depression) but encourage and kudos any positive steps he takes towards his own self care and regulation, you really have to reinforce the healthy connections in the brain to get good habits to stick. Watch out or any dangerous signs of downward spiral that he may be hiding from you, the time to intervene to stop a fall is as near to teh top as possible, don't wait for him to get to rock bottom. He won't hit the ground running right away, it may even take many months but if you can hold him steady long enough for him to get into gear himself he will be okay when he gets into the rhythym of doing the running of the place for himself. Because the more stable he is mentally the less help he will need overall anyway.

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