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Screaming meltdowns

NAS86982

Hello. I'm so glad I've found this forum! My 13 year old daughter is still on the assessment waiting list, has been since December 2021, but we have been struggling for years with her behaviour. She doesn't sleep, is hyper sensitive, has anger and anxiety issues, phobias and such a fussy eater. But it's the screaming meltdowns that are the hardest to cope with. We can't calm her when they happen, just have to wait for them to 'blow over'. However this evening was particularly bad. She banged her head against her wardrobe and screamed the house down, then the police knocked on the door. They had received calls from the neighbours. To be fair I'm surprised they hadn't called them before, but it's just so embarrassing. She has the same extreme reactions to the tinest knock, scrape or splinter, and I think it's her hyper sensitivity. Anyway it is nice to not feel so alone anymore. Wish I'd seen this forum years ago x

  • in reply to NAS86982

    Ooh lucky girl. I love those cats, although I have 2 sphynx right now…

  • Hi, I am new here and I have a 15 year old daughter who does exactly the same I am beyond fed up

    I been 4 years now trying seek support no diagnosis through Chams as cb my daughter refused to go and I couldn’t even explain why I wanted her to go because it made her worse refuses to believe she may be on the spectrum therefore has not got anywhere and is not going to any support been offered like CBT or other now I can’t even get her to talk to anyone she made life so tough I don’t know how get better ot got worse as she can’t even attend school anymore 

    you can’t  stop meltdowns they come out the blue and I find that even trying to solve the triggers isn’t even a option because half the time it has nothing you have done or do I find it possible to stop it it gets worse the more o try harder is 

    I cannot believe why it is so hard to even find support that not even anyone has given me a regular appointment with anyone when it comes to this useless system I find most difficult in a already difficult situation. 

  • in reply to NAS85146

    Thank you so much for all your replies. I completely understand why the police were called, it was out of genuine concern. It's still awkward. I might try and explain to the neighbours that she's waiting for a diagnosis and we're doing what we can. Xx

  • we had people report our son screaming whilst in a holiday bungalow. It was difficult as the police came in . It was evening and my husband had got ready for bed and was trying to explain to them whilst hoping around on one leg trying to get out of his pyjama bottoms and into trousers that the child had autism. We put a sign on the door to let others know about our son.A very nice dutch holiday maker knocked on the door to say sorry but he had worried about the s creaming child.We invited him in to meet our son and he completely understood our situation and we thought he had reacted with genuine concern. 

  • When my granddaughter started to have frequent meltdowns my wife and I began to make a list to try and help find what the trigger was. It was very much a case of working through it until we found what it was. So I would suggest perhaps making your own list to try and find what's upsetting her. It could be something as little as a clock ticking, that's what caused my granddaughter to go in to meltdown and we had no idea it would affect her like that. Good luck, I wish you all the best.

  • in reply to Catlover

    Thank you Catlover. That is my daughter's favourite animal, we brought her a Maine coon and that seems to help centre her, she adores that cat! 

    It's a struggle when you are waiting for a diagnosis. We've been trying to figure things out ourselves. Many thanks for your reply xx

  • If she’s having frequent meltdowns something is bothering her,  and you need to figure out what the problem is. With meltdowns you cannot calm her and she cannot regulate herself and she has no control over it, and cannot be reasoned with as she isn’t aware of her surroundings etc. Once the trigger is found, you can work around it, and she’ll not have to suffer such exhausting meltdowns.