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Meltdown galore and she's not calming down

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I'm a rubbish parent but I'm trying my best, I promise. She had 4 exams this week, 2 today, in a new place, lots of anxiety. Going to keep it short but she had a meltdown in the car on the way home with staff. They called for support. She was injuring herself. She was lying down in the car to a point, the only way they could get her home. She was extremely hot and sweaty. 

Ever since she's been home, she hasn't been able to regulate. She had ice lollies and ice packs but she isn't telling me what's wrong. She's watching Waterloo Road in her bedroom so having space but comes down every now and again and hugs me, she never hugs me. 

I don't know what to do to help. Do I just wait it out? 

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  • depends whats going through her head.

    could the hugs mean she is thinking she has to leave you or something and will miss you?

    the gcses signify end of school and going into adult life, perhaps she is thinking on that and thinking on losing her childhood and being alone and losing her parents?

    could be anything, but analysis of a hug when there is never hugs to me signifies not wanting to lose the one they are hugging perhaps.

  • in reply to Caelus

    It could also be this. She is extremely anxious about leaving school, she has 1 year left so she can slowly transition out of school. I know that she feels she won't have as much support when she leaves school and that no one will understand her, I've reassured her that her family will support her every step of the way. 

    I also heard that she was extremely huggy during the incident and was lying on staffs lap, holding their hands, and one point, sat on one staffs lap which she has never done in her life. 

    I think reality is starting to hit her now. She will learn to drive in July. There's a lot of change starting soon and I don't think she wants to leave school behind. 

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  • in reply to Caelus

    It could also be this. She is extremely anxious about leaving school, she has 1 year left so she can slowly transition out of school. I know that she feels she won't have as much support when she leaves school and that no one will understand her, I've reassured her that her family will support her every step of the way. 

    I also heard that she was extremely huggy during the incident and was lying on staffs lap, holding their hands, and one point, sat on one staffs lap which she has never done in her life. 

    I think reality is starting to hit her now. She will learn to drive in July. There's a lot of change starting soon and I don't think she wants to leave school behind. 

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