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Imagination

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Hi I have a son who is 5 diagnosed with asd 

He's amazing and has an amazing imagination however....

His latest is that he was from another planet and that we are not his real family they live on his planet and if we don't get him back soon he will be stuck here 

He was getting quite upset that he couldn't get back so we showed him some pictures of him as a baby and showed him the solar system that these are the planets he got very upset but is now saying that his planet is in his imagination 

I worried did we do the right thing in bursting the bubble? But also he whole heartedly believes his imagination I'm worried that although it's a planet now could this become more and potentially more dangerous as he gets older? 

Just wondering is anyone else has had anything similar Blush

Thanks a very anxious mummy

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  • When I was quite young I said more or less the same thing to my parents. And I can tell you for a fact that I didn’t really believe it was true at the time but I kind of wished it was true. This planet is rather tiring it does feel very alien to lots of autistic people. we feel like aliens stranded in an alien world. But we don’t look alien and Our parents expect us to be normal; oh there is this crushing expectation of normality forced upon us through lots of tiny things most people don’t even think about.

    but aliens don’t have to be normal they don’t have to abide by conventional rules or fit in neat pigeonholes. I don’t think he really thinks he is an alien I just think he wishes you'd treat him like one and thats something you might like to consider.

    when difficult or contentious situations come up maybe you should ask yourself how would you treat him if he really were an alien. If you had disappeared in a beam of light one night and then turned up the next day pregnant with him, how might you be treating him differently today.

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  • When I was quite young I said more or less the same thing to my parents. And I can tell you for a fact that I didn’t really believe it was true at the time but I kind of wished it was true. This planet is rather tiring it does feel very alien to lots of autistic people. we feel like aliens stranded in an alien world. But we don’t look alien and Our parents expect us to be normal; oh there is this crushing expectation of normality forced upon us through lots of tiny things most people don’t even think about.

    but aliens don’t have to be normal they don’t have to abide by conventional rules or fit in neat pigeonholes. I don’t think he really thinks he is an alien I just think he wishes you'd treat him like one and thats something you might like to consider.

    when difficult or contentious situations come up maybe you should ask yourself how would you treat him if he really were an alien. If you had disappeared in a beam of light one night and then turned up the next day pregnant with him, how might you be treating him differently today.

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