Struggling with helping myself and my 26 year old son

Hi everyone. My son was diagnosed with Aspergers a couple of years ago. he is very high functioning but cannot make friends and is therefore very lonely and depressed. He is also unemployed as he had a breakdown a couple of years ago after the loss of jobs and family misunderstandings. He still sees his psychiatrist every now and again, she considers his depression fairly minor even though he goes through patches of suicidal talk and severe unhappiness where he just sleeps all the time. I go with him to the doctors as getting him to talk is a bit like pulling teeth.

He presents to the rest of the world as being "fine" and it seems that I am the only person that realises how unhappy he is.

 

I am a worrier and want nothing more than to be able to help my son be happy. I do realise I can't do that but I am always trying to be as supportive as I can.

i think that I need to get some support for me as I am slowly getting more and more depressed myself as I don't see any way out of our situation.

When  my son and I talk we are usually having two different conversations. I do my best to ensure that we understand each other but lots of times that has not happened even though I thought it had. Life is very stressful at the moment I am on the verge of tears constantly.

Has anyone got any advice. I am going to see my GP tomorrow. I have had CBT and do understand the theory of being able to turn things around with positive thinking. That is so much easier to say than do. Antidepressants don't agree with me.

I am feeling pretty awful I just need someone to talk to that understands and can perhaps help me to come up with a way of talking to my son that does not usually end in confusion or an argument.

 

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  • Thank you so much for responding. It is very hopeful to speak to someone on the other side of the issue so to speak, and to hear that you and your mum struggle like we do.

    I am trying to improve my day I have just walked the dog for an hour:) maybe the doctor will be able to put me in touch with someone I can talk to.

    Its hard to explain, sometimes I just need to unload all my worries, I am not expecting a resolution just some sympathy I think.

    I have told my son about this forum hopefully he will come and take a look.

     

     

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  • Thank you so much for responding. It is very hopeful to speak to someone on the other side of the issue so to speak, and to hear that you and your mum struggle like we do.

    I am trying to improve my day I have just walked the dog for an hour:) maybe the doctor will be able to put me in touch with someone I can talk to.

    Its hard to explain, sometimes I just need to unload all my worries, I am not expecting a resolution just some sympathy I think.

    I have told my son about this forum hopefully he will come and take a look.

     

     

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