Hi
I've been on here asking for advice alot so many of you probably already know our circumstances. My 6 year old is starting the assessment process for aspergers, however the school don't agree with this diagnosis.
We are starting to have trouble with a little boy in his class. Jack mentioned lastweek that the boy had been unkind to him because he wanted Jack to leave his friend and play alone with him. Jack and his friend are very close and when Jack refused to do what L wanted L started being nasty. Apparently Jacks friend has been saying similar things to his mum too, but that L wanted him to play with him and not Jack.
L's mum has been very unkind about Jack and myself to other parents (she is very my little L can't do anything wrong). This morning I decided to mention to teacher that there has been a little bit of trouble between the 3 of them and she said she would have a chat with all 3 of the boys. Teacher said that L's mum had already been in to complain. I had to go in to talk to the teacher alot last week regarding Jacks behaviour/anxiousness at school, but apparently she assumed i was going in to complain about her little L and is totally up in the air.
The thing Jacks finds it hard to be in groups. He tends to get through play by focusing on one child and so i can see why other kids might feel left out because they must feel ignored. His type of play is very structured a carbon copy down to the script of whatever his interest is, and he likes to play the same thing all the time. However, saying that he is getting slightly better because we are constantly rienforcing that sometimes other children might want to play with him and his friend, and it's a good thing to play what others want to sometimes. I have seen him playing with a couple of other kids in the classroom as other kids seem to accept him and dip in when it looks fun.
I have always said to Jack it's fine to play with others but when people are unkind then walk away. He hasn't got a confrontational bone in his body so I don't think that he wouldn't let L play, but i suspect that L is getting confrontational and the 2 lads are moving away. Other children have also had problems with L in the past too.
At nursery I was always having the staff complain that Jack is to exclusive with his friend (a different friend) to the expense of other children's feelings, and i had many parents complaining that there child was upset. Now it's all flaring up again. His teacher says there isn't a problem because he talks to other children, but surely this is an example of where Jack stuggles socially.
I'll shut now i've ranted enough. Thanks for reading xx
