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Help! Son ignores me!

Daisy

Hi everyone,

I would really appreciate some insights and advice into my problem.

My son is 7 and is a pro at ignoring me when he doesn't want to do something! He will intensely focus on other distractions to avoid doing what I ask him to do (change his pull-ups, go to school, take a shower). It's extremely difficult (impossible sometimes) to gain his attention and get him to comply.

My son is very eloquent, intelligent and loves learning. He is very entertaining and we have a fantastic time playing together - but he's as stubborn as he is brilliant!

How can I get through to him and get him to do what I tell him to? Being stern with him and issuing punishments doesn't end well as he's prone to extreme anxiety and meltdowns. 

Help!

Daisy.

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  • It will get better as he gets older..its probably because he can't speak many words or is having trouble with language..Google it as the aspbergers makes brain pathways with language dificult ie he is not being naughty etc....I would highly recommend and can not stress enough the importance of visual aids for him ie get a book and put literal photos or cartoon stickers of things you need him to do...take the time to address each issue and calmly explain in a non threatening way why he needs to wash etc.Most likely when he is older ie teens or maybe early twenty and get more conscious of his appearance he may be more inclined to wash etc..but he's a kid and most any2ay want to just play games etc..also aspbergers if you look up the word autism it stems from the word self in some way whatb'm trying to sat that for your son it will feel like he is in his own world separate unablento connect so anything you want him to do is of no importance or he can't connect to that..he will be able to donit if its purely what he wants or is interested in so you could try something like say for example if he is interested in trains get him a wash bag with trains on it and a toothbrush in the shape of a train ie you have to spark and engage his interests.

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  • It will get better as he gets older..its probably because he can't speak many words or is having trouble with language..Google it as the aspbergers makes brain pathways with language dificult ie he is not being naughty etc....I would highly recommend and can not stress enough the importance of visual aids for him ie get a book and put literal photos or cartoon stickers of things you need him to do...take the time to address each issue and calmly explain in a non threatening way why he needs to wash etc.Most likely when he is older ie teens or maybe early twenty and get more conscious of his appearance he may be more inclined to wash etc..but he's a kid and most any2ay want to just play games etc..also aspbergers if you look up the word autism it stems from the word self in some way whatb'm trying to sat that for your son it will feel like he is in his own world separate unablento connect so anything you want him to do is of no importance or he can't connect to that..he will be able to donit if its purely what he wants or is interested in so you could try something like say for example if he is interested in trains get him a wash bag with trains on it and a toothbrush in the shape of a train ie you have to spark and engage his interests.

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