Hi,
This is my first post here. 
My son is 5 and was diagnosed with an ASD a few months ago, although we knew for a couple of years tbh.
He's very loud and chatty at home. He talks non stop. He's also very demanding with everything he wants and has a lot of meltdowns. He's really hard work at the moment but these phases seem to come and go.
Outside of home he is very quiet and seems shy. He hardly talks to anyone, doesn't really play with other children and doesn't interact very much.
One thing he always is now though is STUBBORN! This never used to be the case with strangers and by strangers I mean anyone who isn't me. This is quite a new thing but he's acting up with more and more people and nobody is quite sure how to handle it.
At home he will demand things which I'm sure he knows are impossible. He'll tell me to do things 'right now' even though there is no way it's happening. Even carefully explaining doesn't work. Once he has his mind set on something a meltdown is near.
I'm used to this behaviour but it's starting to affect more important things like school work. He is behind at school although he is making progress. The problem is he has now started to refuse to do certain parts of his work. He likes certain things and will happily do them but with spelling he just refuses. He will sometimes work one-to-one with a learning support assistant and will do his work but as soon as she leaves him or another child joins in he stops. He doesn't say anything but just won't do his work! He won't do it with anyone else either. At home it's a real battle to get him to do his homework too which he will deliberatly mess up.
Sorry for the long post. I'm really new to all this and there are so many parts of his behaviour which baffle me. I wanted to go on a course but with two other young children and nobody to babysit it looks like I will have to wait. :(
Really could do with some advice :/
