Hello everybody
I'm in the process of compiling my letter to the LA to ask for an assessment on my 10 year old lad. He is higher functioning so his grades aren't way down, my problems lie mainly in his communication and behaviour.
He is so easily led, for example he jumped off a building within the school grounds 14 times because some children told him to, he angers at others so easily, headlocks tries to the strangle them etc but manages to "hide" his behaviours from his teachers and letting rip at home instead. I do have schools backing on asking for an assessment but have been told they feel its unlikely because hes a bright boy.
Could anybody give me some wisdom on what sort of information to put into this letter or general advise please? I feel so sad that everybody tells me he won't get a statement because he's not failing in his actual progress, why should he not get the support because he masks things and then meltdowns at home instead :(
Thanks so much
mum25
Well, he had the assessment, completely melted down in front of ed psych at home and clearly got upset when she was chatting about school with him :( My lad was so brave and opened up to her about not liking school, albeit it in one word answers but that was major progress for him. Anyway, most of the tests she did with him gave him average to above average apart from one which came in at below average, she picked up on his mastery and ratedness tests that he was way below average and has an incredibly low self esteem and opinion of himself.
Anyway, the short of it is, we found out last week that he got a note in lieu not a statement. The note in lieu doesn't recognise half of the recommendations made by the professionals and I can't see that it will offer him anymore support than what the school had already put in place :( and to top it all my ex husband put a letter in to panel contradicting everything we see at home and really not backing up my lad at all :( I feel so sad that he is going to mainstream secondary school unsupported because his grades are ok, not fantastic but not massively behind. Surely, his emotional welfare should come into this somewhere too? The lady at the lea told me his "problems at home need to be met by Camhs and they are not related to his educational right to access the curriculum" it was like hitting my head against a brick wall, she couldn't see that his meltdowns at home are triggered by what goes on at school.
Sorry for the long update, we are going to appeal but not hopeful.
Well, he had the assessment, completely melted down in front of ed psych at home and clearly got upset when she was chatting about school with him :( My lad was so brave and opened up to her about not liking school, albeit it in one word answers but that was major progress for him. Anyway, most of the tests she did with him gave him average to above average apart from one which came in at below average, she picked up on his mastery and ratedness tests that he was way below average and has an incredibly low self esteem and opinion of himself.
Anyway, the short of it is, we found out last week that he got a note in lieu not a statement. The note in lieu doesn't recognise half of the recommendations made by the professionals and I can't see that it will offer him anymore support than what the school had already put in place :( and to top it all my ex husband put a letter in to panel contradicting everything we see at home and really not backing up my lad at all :( I feel so sad that he is going to mainstream secondary school unsupported because his grades are ok, not fantastic but not massively behind. Surely, his emotional welfare should come into this somewhere too? The lady at the lea told me his "problems at home need to be met by Camhs and they are not related to his educational right to access the curriculum" it was like hitting my head against a brick wall, she couldn't see that his meltdowns at home are triggered by what goes on at school.
Sorry for the long update, we are going to appeal but not hopeful.
