First of all, I am aware she emails her teacher in the morning and it is an appropriate response. Her staff email me in the morning to see how she's doing and to let her know her staff for the day. My daughter then emails back anything really ranging from that she's in a good mood to something that happened last night. She says it in a way that makes it sound like it was me who emailed it so uses her own name and everything.
The thing is, that when she writes these emails and I read it, most of the time she's giving the school tips on how to help her and what she struggles with aswell has anything on her mind that they may need to know about because it could cause a bit of trouble later on in the day. I feel like it is a good way to communicate what's on her mind but it's the only way she can do it.
On 2 previous emails she said that she had a tricky night and was crying because the past came back to her and in all honesty, I didnt know this until I read it and she refused to talk to me about it. On the most previous one, she said that she was upset about staff leaving and struggled to regulate resulting in headbaging and biting which I didn't know was happening either. I knew she was upset so gave her space and I did hear a few bangs on the wall but otherwise it was quiet.
She is very smart for her age and staff don't know she's emailing them because even when they tell her, mum emailed this morning saying blah blah blah, she will be like, oh, acts surprised and she doesn't want to talk about it most of the time. She's been emailing for around a year now and we've had no issue with it. I read them everyday and it tends to be a very similar response. But how can I help her communicate her needs and thoughts to school when she can't even tell them to me herself?
