Hi my ASD 16 year old son has recently moved back with me after leaving mainstream high school and is now attending college.
Im experiencing real problems with trying to get my son to go to bed early enough to get up for college Im talking about 10:30pm, he has to travel to college on a bus which is only a 20minute journey and has to be in college for 9:30am.
He comes home from college and cannot wait to get on his laptop (gaming on steam) once he is on there thats it!!! It is very very hard for me to get him off it to eat his tea,have a shower,talk about his day etc..
Im now responsible in teaching him how to live an independant adult life and want to try to establish a routine when he comes back home from college.
For example: I work night shifts (single parent) 3 nights a week mainy fri, sat and sunday which will free up my time to be there when he has to attend college which is weds, thurs & friday. Once he is on his laptop I cant get him to do anything else, in fact when I disturb him he can get quite nasty with me verbaly Im asking him for hours to end his game to get bed at a reasonable time to get enough sleep to be able to get up the next day for college...but once he is in bed he has his phone,ipod etc...and doesnt go to sleep till its late he tells me he is listening to relaxation music but im sure he is on youtube...Ive unplugged my internet took it to bed with me and everthing just to stop him going on it but he uses his packetdata...
Basically what is happening he is not getting to sleep to really late early hours of the morning and he is absolutely shattered the next day and I cant get him out of bed...he has been late twice already this week.
When I try to talk to him about it his attitude is 'I dont really care'. This is creating a negative atmosphere and I really dont want it to be this way.
I dont know how to deal with this the right way or know what Im doing wrong.
The only thing I can think of doing is hiding his laptop until he has done everything he needs to do and then unplugging the internet when he wont stop gaming to go to bed...but this just produces upset and verbal abuse off him..he really is a great lad and this really doesnt suit him being this way because 99 per cent of the time I have no trouble off him...only when it comes to his laptop.
Any help and advice will be greatly appreciated.
