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discipline in school

shonaghmg

Hi all

Can anyone help me with ideas of what discipline works in school for a child with autism?

My son is 10 and the system his school uses is a star system.  They start with 5 at the beginning of the week and if they keep all they get golden time on a Thursday. They lose certain amount of time when they lose a star and if so many are lost they don't get golden time. He understands at the time but by the time Thursday comes round he has forgotten what is was over and gets stressed out.  

At home i use a system if he does wrong he gets his favourite thing taken away for that day/evening so he is punished there and then.

Any info much appreciated.

Thanks, Shonagh

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  • Hello Shonagh

    You are right about the punishment having to be immediate - my son is the same, he will forget if you leave it too long.

    I'm wondering if the school's system is a bit 'upside-down'. It seems very negative. Would it be better to earn stars for good behaviour rather than take them away for bad? My son attends a special school, and they earn stars for good work and behaviour, and then when they have 5 stars, they get a prize. Only something small like a bouncy ball, but it really works. He's so proud when he comes home with a prize!

    For the times when a punishment has to be given, it needs to be consistent and immediate. Is there something in particular he likes to play with at school - perhaps they could remove that for a set time. It doesn't have to be long - even just a couple of hours. It just needs to be enough to make him understand the consequences. My son's teacher used to put a sad face on the wall if he was naughty, which he really hated. She would only leave it there for a short while, and once he'd shown good behaviour or done some good work she would take it down again.

    Hopefully some of that was of use to you!

    Nicky x

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  • Hello Shonagh

    You are right about the punishment having to be immediate - my son is the same, he will forget if you leave it too long.

    I'm wondering if the school's system is a bit 'upside-down'. It seems very negative. Would it be better to earn stars for good behaviour rather than take them away for bad? My son attends a special school, and they earn stars for good work and behaviour, and then when they have 5 stars, they get a prize. Only something small like a bouncy ball, but it really works. He's so proud when he comes home with a prize!

    For the times when a punishment has to be given, it needs to be consistent and immediate. Is there something in particular he likes to play with at school - perhaps they could remove that for a set time. It doesn't have to be long - even just a couple of hours. It just needs to be enough to make him understand the consequences. My son's teacher used to put a sad face on the wall if he was naughty, which he really hated. She would only leave it there for a short while, and once he'd shown good behaviour or done some good work she would take it down again.

    Hopefully some of that was of use to you!

    Nicky x

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