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I’m completely lost!

NAS77435

Not sure where to start

Now 12yo, has been referred when 3yo and told they have tendencies but not enough to diagnose, fast forward to 12yo and we’re waiting for second assessment. More recently, Routine is set, school is fine, parents evening was 100% positive (not really helping my assessment). At home is a completely different story! Won’t leave the house, when asked to do a task, does the opposite, cannot control emotions/hormones. Won’t open up to me when I try to engage, yet I leave them alone to sob their heart out and then they seek reassurance after I feel completely *** about myself leaving them to cry. Don’t know if I used possible asd to not correct behaviour and now just a typical teen taking advantage of no discipline or what. 
I really haven’t a clue what to do. Parenting doesn’t come with a manual and adding possible disabilities in to it makes it really difficult. 
I’m struggling as a single parent with no support and having another child who not knowing if they also have possible asd or just learned/copying behaviour is hard. 
Both kids are star pupils at school with no worries or concerns and then come home and just release all the stress and anger, it’s hard to get any support as they think I’m making it up as no evidence at school 

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  • You know it’s that age! By the time they approach high school everything goes mad. It’s so common, but people put it down to hormones. Of course they play a part, but it’s the whole overload thing, and trying to fit in, and the possible sensory issues. It gets tough! And acting up once they get home is a classic sign. They’ve been trying to hold things in all day….

    So yeah, an assessment seems a good idea. Schools can be rubbish when reporting issues, because they don’t see any, and ignore the subtle differences, especially if the school work is being completed well and on time. 

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  • You know it’s that age! By the time they approach high school everything goes mad. It’s so common, but people put it down to hormones. Of course they play a part, but it’s the whole overload thing, and trying to fit in, and the possible sensory issues. It gets tough! And acting up once they get home is a classic sign. They’ve been trying to hold things in all day….

    So yeah, an assessment seems a good idea. Schools can be rubbish when reporting issues, because they don’t see any, and ignore the subtle differences, especially if the school work is being completed well and on time. 

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