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Serve anxiety, School refusal

NAS84722

Hi, my son suffers with anxiety and has school refusal. I find it hard to get him in most days. I would like some advice on how best to manage his anxiety. Can doctors help?. 

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  • Hiya,

    Sounds like life is pretty tough at the moment for you both. Do you know what he is anxious about? Is it the other students? the work? etc. Once you discover what's causing the anxiety about school it will make it easier to come up with a solution to help him back in. Talking to his GP might help however that might increase his anxiety so perhaps suggest it and see how he reacts

    Alisha xx

    P.S. feel free to private message if you ever want to chat

  • in reply to piggy1401

    Thankyou for your reply. He says the classroom is too noisy, there is to many people and he can’t concentrate on his work. He also struggles with social situations and changes in routine. And writing so he has the use of a laptop. It’s also the the change from home to school on a morning and break times back into class. I’ve been to the gp and to be honest it was a waste of time, said they can’t do anything about his anxiety till he gets diagnosed and said it’s upto the school to help him with his anxieties at school. So no help really and the school are at a loss of what to do as they feel like they have put everything in place for him. 

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  • in reply to piggy1401

    Thankyou for your reply. He says the classroom is too noisy, there is to many people and he can’t concentrate on his work. He also struggles with social situations and changes in routine. And writing so he has the use of a laptop. It’s also the the change from home to school on a morning and break times back into class. I’ve been to the gp and to be honest it was a waste of time, said they can’t do anything about his anxiety till he gets diagnosed and said it’s upto the school to help him with his anxieties at school. So no help really and the school are at a loss of what to do as they feel like they have put everything in place for him. 

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  • in reply to NAS84722

    How does he usually deal with situations which are too noisy for him? Many of us use noise cancelling headphones, I personally prefer sticking 1 airpod in my ear and have some music playing, it drowns out some of the background noise and also helps with my anxiety, I've done this in school for the last 3 years so school should be accepting if that's something he wants to try.

    Sounds like the laptop is a positive, glad he's found something which helps

    Have you tried having a visual representation of when he will need to change activity? Like a sandtimer etc. Which shows when he has 5 mins left of break so he can slowly get his head round that. 

    Sorry the GP hasn't been very helpful. Sounds like school really want to support him, they just aren't sure what they can do, at least they want to help.

    You mentioned struggling with social situations, and school is obviously a highly social place. Have school given him a quiet space he can go to if he doesn't feel like socialisaing like the library or somewhere?

    Alisha xx