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Rudeness

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Hello!

my 10 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with autism and we are struggling with her awful rudeness.

she is awfully rude to me and her dad and so unkind to her younger sister. We are treading on egg shells all the time and are struggling to cope with her behaviour.

Any ideas on what we can do? It’s usually when she’s stressed or anxious but she knows that it is unacceptable to be rude. She says she can’t help it.

any advice would be great fully received.

thsnk you, 

Emma

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  • I am almost 23, recently diagnosed autistic female and I have quite a bit of anxiety about accidentally being rude in certain situations, because I was always being told off for being rude as a kid (i.e. not smiling, reluctancy to speak to strangers, forgetting pleasantries) and I genuinely found it hard to know how I was meant to be acting/speaking. When that's happening you need to be patient and explain/re-explain the social rules. 

    Being actually unkind, i.e aiming to hurt someone, is different,and pretty unacceptable. If she's angry/stressed, encourage another outlet, don't let her take it out on her sister and use autism as a catch-all excuse. E.g. vigorous excercise like running or matrial arts are very good for channeling anger/stress, and they also help a lot with anxiety. 

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  • I am almost 23, recently diagnosed autistic female and I have quite a bit of anxiety about accidentally being rude in certain situations, because I was always being told off for being rude as a kid (i.e. not smiling, reluctancy to speak to strangers, forgetting pleasantries) and I genuinely found it hard to know how I was meant to be acting/speaking. When that's happening you need to be patient and explain/re-explain the social rules. 

    Being actually unkind, i.e aiming to hurt someone, is different,and pretty unacceptable. If she's angry/stressed, encourage another outlet, don't let her take it out on her sister and use autism as a catch-all excuse. E.g. vigorous excercise like running or matrial arts are very good for channeling anger/stress, and they also help a lot with anxiety. 

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