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Rudeness

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Hello!

my 10 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with autism and we are struggling with her awful rudeness.

she is awfully rude to me and her dad and so unkind to her younger sister. We are treading on egg shells all the time and are struggling to cope with her behaviour.

Any ideas on what we can do? It’s usually when she’s stressed or anxious but she knows that it is unacceptable to be rude. She says she can’t help it.

any advice would be great fully received.

thsnk you, 

Emma

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  • If she's saying she can't help it, perhaps she's struggling to manage her feelings, or maybe there's something in her environment that's causing sensory issues and making her irritable. I know that when I'm experiencing sensory overload, or having big feelings, or dealing with an unexpected change, it can make me really short-tempered and even more blunt than I usually am- and I'm old enough to have a 10-year-old kiddo of my own!

    Since you've said she tends to be ruder when she's stressed or anxious, it might be worth taking note of the circumstances leading up to that. There might be a pattern there that could help her figure out why this happens.

    Or, as Peter says, she might just be very blunt! Sometimes autistic people can say things that other people perceive as rude, when our intention was just to be direct.

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  • If she's saying she can't help it, perhaps she's struggling to manage her feelings, or maybe there's something in her environment that's causing sensory issues and making her irritable. I know that when I'm experiencing sensory overload, or having big feelings, or dealing with an unexpected change, it can make me really short-tempered and even more blunt than I usually am- and I'm old enough to have a 10-year-old kiddo of my own!

    Since you've said she tends to be ruder when she's stressed or anxious, it might be worth taking note of the circumstances leading up to that. There might be a pattern there that could help her figure out why this happens.

    Or, as Peter says, she might just be very blunt! Sometimes autistic people can say things that other people perceive as rude, when our intention was just to be direct.

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