Undiagnosed Asperger’s/Autism Advice Needed

Hello, my son is 27 years old and we have long thought he has Autism or Asperger’s. He doesn’t like mixing with people at all or any face to face contact, he won’t even go to the front door to take in a delivery. Also he hates anything to do with phones/mobiles and won’t talk to anyone on the phone. He has no job and prefers to be in his room, he had been working for my brother at his house on a house conversion for nearly a year but something must of happened involving the builders that put my son off from going there. He won’t talk about it or go to my brother’s anymore which has made my brother very angry as there is still a lot to do and they are no longer talking which upsets my mum and me as we are only a small family.  My son won’t go to the GP for a diagnosis as that involves face to face or telephone contact. He had been talking to a girl online for a few months and we think he had been sending money to her. Last month she stopped talking to him.  Any advice you can give on how I can get help for my son will be much appreciated. Thank you.

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  • Have you directly broached the possibility with him?  It's difficult, I know.  Basically though if he is an adult, there's not a lot you can do if he doesn't want to be assessed.  I would just try to keep talking, let him know you are concerned and let him know that if he is autistic life can be a lot better for knowing.

    I've got a friend in the same boat just now, it's taken her an age to sort of coax it on her loved ones radar.  We are pretty sure he is autistic, but he need to get to that realisation himself before we can help.

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  • Have you directly broached the possibility with him?  It's difficult, I know.  Basically though if he is an adult, there's not a lot you can do if he doesn't want to be assessed.  I would just try to keep talking, let him know you are concerned and let him know that if he is autistic life can be a lot better for knowing.

    I've got a friend in the same boat just now, it's taken her an age to sort of coax it on her loved ones radar.  We are pretty sure he is autistic, but he need to get to that realisation himself before we can help.

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