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Good manners?

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My daughter (9, likely AS) can sometimes be, what would be considered as, very rude. For instance, my mum kindly took her out for a trip with some other family members on a boat ride up the river.  On returning I asked my daughter if she had a good day, she said 'No, it was boring' which is bad enough in front of my mum.  I asked her to say thank you to Nanny for taking her out but she refused.  I felt terrible, so embarrassed. On hindsight I think her Aspergers mind worked it out as 'Why should I say thank you? I didn't enjoy it'. Fair enough, but she has to learn that it is only right to say thank you when you're given anything, even if it's not really what you want, if you get what I mean?

Should I push it?  I don't want her to be seen as an ungrateful brat (perhaps she is?) I also don't want to use AS as an excuse for rudeness.  I know if I push the issue at the time it's likely to cause a major strop from her and probably in me losing my temper.  Trying to broach the subject after is tricky when it's 'out of context', she ends up having a strop, then I can't talk to her at all.

Aww, I feel such a bad parent, I try to be understanding and tolerant but my NT mind just doesn't 'get it' sometimes!

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  • Now I'm retired £400 plus travel and accommodation is a lot of dosh. Even during my working life when I could get paid to go on conferences these NAS ones couldn't be justified - because the content was unlikely to benefit me. There were other conferences more likely to help.

    I don't understand the approach NAS has. The cost generally limits the cross-section of delegates. And what are they really trying to achieve by these conferences?

    They are often basic - introduction to professionals who may not be aware. But the people who could benefit are likely, either themselves or employers, to balk at the price.

    And to exhibit at these conferences, well in excess of £1,000, given the sorts of organisations that could exhibit........

    NAS must be achieving something through these conferences so that may be why they keep running them, but frankly the point is lost on me. These are profile conferences for executives to be seen at.

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  • Now I'm retired £400 plus travel and accommodation is a lot of dosh. Even during my working life when I could get paid to go on conferences these NAS ones couldn't be justified - because the content was unlikely to benefit me. There were other conferences more likely to help.

    I don't understand the approach NAS has. The cost generally limits the cross-section of delegates. And what are they really trying to achieve by these conferences?

    They are often basic - introduction to professionals who may not be aware. But the people who could benefit are likely, either themselves or employers, to balk at the price.

    And to exhibit at these conferences, well in excess of £1,000, given the sorts of organisations that could exhibit........

    NAS must be achieving something through these conferences so that may be why they keep running them, but frankly the point is lost on me. These are profile conferences for executives to be seen at.

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